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i don't agree with it. physical pain is temporary, but when someone says something horrible to you, you don't usually forget it for a long time
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I will sue you.... We have become such pussies. We so afraid to say anything. Muslims are the new blacks. We cannot say anything or right away we are judged or labeling them and we may offend them. So, we will allow them to do anything they want. I say grow thicker skin and stop whining.
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Words do hurt. They can make you feel insecure. They can make you question your life. They can give you a reality check you weren't ready for. I've been on the backend of that.
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What a load of crap that expression is. Words are potent weapons; of course, they can hurt deeply. Abusive words inflicted repeatedly can break a spirit, and one stone never has to be thrown.
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Liar, liar, pants on fire. Words and actions can definetely hurt more than broken bones. Physical pain often goes away. Mental pain can last a while or come back as a twinging pain. You think it goes away or is put behind you when pow! Ouch...
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Perhaps more often than not, it takes a lot longer to recover from the damage of the spoken work versus the damage from a stick or stone.
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In this society where so much is placed on feeble words it isn't easy to pretend words are meaningless.
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I think this quote should not be spoken. My exhusband turned out to be a very abusive man, physically, mentally, emotionally...but more than anything else, verbally abusive. People understand physical abuse. They can see that. The physical abuse mends...No one can physically see what verbal abuse does to someone. The hurt remains for a very long time...sometimes forever...In my opinion, the verbal abuse is much harder to get over. Words can hurt you, so why tell children they don't? Crazy philosophy.
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This quote i've learn in early elementary school growing up in the 60's where name calling from blacks and whites were often used. But the wisdom i've learn from the above quote is that as long as you don't touch me and stay on your side of an imaginary line in the sand its ok, but when you touch me i've have the survival ability to defend myself. However, living in today's society words can damage our character, career development, and the ability to earn an honest living simply because the words we used and the places we socialize. Its better to commune with faith base and honestly sincere folks that the words they used to encourage and to build up a lasting relationship without fear of throwing stick and stone!
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I gotta stay alert! 'Cause sometimes not even words are necessary to hurt me, the absence of a smile when I was hoping for one, or god forbid a sour pus when I wanted a kiss, or the person I called does not sound happy enough to hear from me; these can cost me a lot, and that is my responsibility. My job is to choose my own actions the best I can and learn from the outcomes. It works better when I remain mindful of my intentions. What other people think is not really about me, it's about them. I am still learning this, and I am still learning to forgive people for things they said a long time ago. But the good news is that learning to forgive is really awesome. So, everything is working out pretty good! These days, practicing forgiving is the most wonderful thing I do with my time. I am getting better at it.
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my friends would say that I wrote it...I don't give a dime on what others say about me,especially when I know they are wrong.
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I learned it when I was 8. I internalized it when I was 30. Easier said than done.
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I think it is more an affirmation than anything; and a good one. The truth is that things people say do hurt; sometimes innocently but often intentionally. The affirmation points to the truth that ultimately, we each control our own "kingdom" -- to varying degrees. By "kingdom" I mean the world of our thoughts, feeling, reactions. And control over our internal landscape is something anyone can learn with a bit of perserverence and discipline. Ultimately, we get to choose how we will respond to outside influences. We would not be human if unkind words didn't hurt to some degree in the moment they're uttered. But the final choice on whether or not we will continue to let some lout's unkind words continue to impact our world even after they're gone from our presence. They're off doing something else. Will we continue to let them control an aspect of our world in absentia?
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I think its wrong to tell this to a child. The child knows he is hurting, and I've yet to see it really dissuade anyone from continuing to use words as weapons. Adults can learn the detachment necessary to not be bothered by hurtful words--but even so, given the right conditions (stress, tiredness, illness) words can wound us, too. And @prettyedy I always heard it "words" not "names." Maybe its a regional thing?
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