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True Friends

I've lost many friends within this past year who have fallen into various addictions, habits etc. that I just dont want to be involved with. Obviously, it's tough to be an individual, and stand up for yourself sometimes...especially when the people you call friends are involved in dangerous behavior. I've struggled with it, but have since found people that take me for who I am. So, here's my question: How many true friends do you have? How did you meet them? How long have you known them? What about them makes them true? Feel free to elaborate.

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@Sara you are a lucky one. I have one friend just like that. She's about the only true on I've got left. Isnt it amazing that you can be far away from each other for months, and then fall right back into the same routine you had when you were in middle school? @TabernacleMAC you arent alone in that. I have a ton of acquaintances and not too many true friends. It can get lonely. Those hang out friends will turn into true friends. Just wait a bit.

I have many, many true friends whom I love dearly. Several I have known since kindergarten; others, I met in high school and college. Since that time, I have made many more friends along the way. I have shared many of my friends from my past with my other friends, and they too, have developed great friendships with one another. I have had the pleasure of being present for the birth of many friend's children and other major milestones in our lives. We make it a point to have "girlfriend' week-ends, or take vacations together. Some friends I don't see often, but we always pick right up where we left off. I have a couple of friends who fell into addiction, but they recognized it and took all of the necessary steps to become clean and sober and got themselves back on track. I give my friends any emotional support they need, and vice versa. Although I am a woman, I have many dear male friends too. I cannot think of a single friend of mine who would not be willing to give the shirt off of their backs if the need arose, and I would do the same for them. I feel blessed to have these wonderful, true friends to share my life with.

I have one, hopefully two. The one I've been friendly with for two years but is one of the few people I totally trust and can be myself around. Not to mention laugh and have a blast with, even in biology. We started talking in class one day and haven't stopped since. We have a lot in common and I can always count on this person. As for the other friend, I've also known this person for two years. We were really close but now I'm starting to become nervous about our surrvival. We still have some great conversations and the connection's still there. But for whatever reason (lack of opportunity/maybe I'm kidding myself?) our true blue friendship is losing some color. Know you have to let go sometimes but this friendship's important enough to fight for. At least I think so.

There is a group of women I get together with once a week. The group was formed as a discussion group, but we have become true friends for each other. Whenever any one of us has a need, the rest of us are there, doing whatever we can to help out--listening, comforting, caring, accepting. I've known them for about five years now. I can't imagine life without them.

My family make up most of my friends, and those that aren't blood I still consider family. They accept me for who I am, warts and all, and that's all I could ask.

I don't think I have any true friends...a lot of people I can hang out with...but no TRUE friends. And I don't know why. And it makes me sad.

Four girls stick out to me. Out of those four, one I call my best friend, and the other three and I have a sisterhood kind of group, where we are a group of best friends...if that made sense. The one I met the first day I moved to a new town when I was 11. She was my first friend and always nice to me, even when I was a snot in my stupid pre-teen years. We went to separate middle schools but reunited in high-school and now go to the same college. I tell her everything. She's amazing. If she were a guy, I'd marry her. haha My sisterhood group...we do everything together. We joked about it today. "For God's sake," my one friend said, "we go to the bank to cash our PENNIES together." I met them all in the first couple years of high-school and we were forced to deal with tragedy together and came out of it, stronger. I can't imagine laughing so much and being so loud over coffee with 3 other girls. We know we'll be friends the rest of our lives. We know it. We go to college in such different places, and didn't see each other for months, but we kept in touch through facebook and chats that it felt like they never left. I love my friends to death. We're just there for each other, we think of the little things. My one friend had oral surgery and we stopped by on a limb and brought her pudding. We pick up things for each other, simply text, "Hey you want to grab coffee?" and we're there. I've seen them cry and laugh and we share our dreams, and our fears...we're really inseparable.

I have one. This person know everything about me and is still my friend. I can be a complete b*tch, a sobbing mess, gassy, and down right bratty but is still my absolute best friend. I know this person is here for me no matter what. And I trust this person with my life. No doubt whatsoever. Two peas in a pod we are. And I hope I make them just as happy as I make them.

So, I went through the same struggle about a year ago. My best friend in college got invovled with some serious drugs and found herself kicked out of school for a year. It was really difficult for me, as someone whose not a user, to figure out where I stood. How do i stay a friend to someone i care so incredibly about, but yet I'm seeing her fall and get into things that I don't approve of. Here's the scoop.... you can't force anyone to do anything they don't want to do. My friend came out of it, she got help, and she's completely clean now for 6 months. I knew that I loved her more than anything and that was the time she needed me most. If you care about them, and they're your friends, stick by their side. Be responsible enough to know it's not for you, and smart enough not to play the 'parent' role and they will find themselves come out of it, so much quicker by knowing they have friends with them 'till the end'.

I was like you and thought I had many true friends, but they fell into addictions with drugs, dangerous behavior, etc. I have exactly one friend who I know would give his life for me, as he knows I would give mine for him.

I known two of my best friends for my entire life. They accept me entirely, understand me completely, and don't lie to me but make me face my problems and dilemmas. They make me a better person. And we have so many good times together that it's hard to keep track of. Sometimes it's as if we're speaking in a different language because we have so many inside jokes. Two of my other friends went off to university but recently came home to visit. Talking with them, we just picked up where we left off. It was as if they hadn't been gone at all. We keep in touch even when we don't see each other; we share our problems and have philosophical discussions that last for days. I can ask them anything and they'll give me an honest answer. I think true friends support you, make you laugh and smile, and make you face life instead of hiding from it.

True friends to me are people that never give up with you. When you're struggling, they are always there the help you back on your feet. They love you for who you are and you don't have to worry with them. They appreciate you.

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zamfir

My family make up most of my friends, and those that aren't blood I still consider family. They accept me for who I am, warts and all, and that's all I could ask.

TabernacleMAC

I don't think I have any true friends...a lot of people I can hang out with...but no TRUE friends. And I don't know why. And it makes me sad.

Sara

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Cynic

I was like you and thought I had many true friends, but they fell into addictions with drugs, dangerous behavior, etc. I have exactly one friend who I know would give his life for me, as he knows I would give mine for him.

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HeyLauren

True friends to me are people that never give up with you. When you're struggling, they are always there the help you back on your feet. They love you for who you are and you don't have to worry with them. They appreciate you.

True Friends

My family make up most of my friends, and those that aren't blood I still consider family. They accept me for who I am, warts and all, and that's all I could ask.

I don't think I have any true friends...a lot of people I can hang out with...but no TRUE friends. And I don't know why. And it makes me sad.

I was like you and thought I had many true friends, but they fell into addictions with drugs, dangerous behavior, etc. I have exactly one friend who I know would give his life for me, as he knows I would give mine for him.

True friends to me are people that never give up with you. When you're struggling, they are always there the help you back on your feet. They love you for who you are and you don't have to worry with them. They appreciate you.

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