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- 10 months ago

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What is this "annoying" thing all about?

Annoyance. What is it? How does it emerge? Is it really all about them or...could it be you? All you? WTF!

Is there a way to get all Kung Fu on annoyance factors and and leverage these people and situations to your advantage? Are you over the hurdle?

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I've been doing a good deal of thinking about this one and I've actually caught myself in several instances, since you asked this question, feeling annoyed and asking myself why? In all but one of the events something that annoyed me was annoying exclusively to me. The one event where I was on the same plain with at least three other people was seeing the new Batman movie and being aggravated that it sucked and it was too long. But I was still there of my own volition so realistically I could take responsibility for that one. All that aside, what I discovered was that if I was truly honest with myself, the feeling of annoyance started with me and ended with me. It really had little to do with any outside stimulus. I also realized that the more I ruminated on it the worse it got and it had nothing to do with anyone or anything but me. It was a really enlightening experience.

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I will kill a fly that is annoying me with buzzing around my desk/face - not if its across the room.
I see annoyance as [often] being down to a frustration at some inability of oneself to overcome an obstacle - the obstacle itself may be utterly neutral, causing no annoyance to anyone else...

In my work when people set up imagined negative worst case scenarios as I am explaining how the new project will benefit them, the organisation, and the public they serve, I have learned not to get annoyed
(this scenario is very common)
very occasionally I can get to the point where I dismiss these people as "laggards" the type who will NEVER see the positive in any change and who should most definitely be ignored or quietly got rid of...

mostly I can manage to persuade people to give it a go long enough for them to realise that it really does reduce their workload in the worse areas ( form filling and so on) and increase the quality of life in doing the job - helping people get their "better life".

All the successes have meant that the things that used to annoy and frustrate, no longer do...

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So far...

flee and kill as coping methods. It's science! :)

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Flies in the house annoy me..I swat them with a newspaper.

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Most of the things that annoy me I don't have any control over so then it becomes and issue of how am I going to deal with it so the responsibility lies on my shoulders. I just usually absent myself from the situation or person.

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