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Wow I just learned something I always wonder what makes a good person> And it makes sense Good people feel guilt.....Thanks Reading this made my day!!
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I think a good person is one who tries to do no harm to others, genuinely cares for the happiness and wellness of others. A good person will have made mistakes in their past, but not allow those to make them become a bad person...redemption differentiates those who continually make bad mistakes from those who learn from them and improve their choices. Life is a journey about becoming the best good person that you can be while accepting your humanity and brushing off your mistakes.
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I believe all people are good but do not believe they are and make decisions based on that belief which in turn makes others percieve them as bad, sort of a vicious cycle. If more people realized how good "doing good" felt maybe we would have more "good people"
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If a good person feels guilt I must be a saint. I say that because I used to check on my Grandmother every morning and the one time I didn't that is when had her stroke. Anyway what makes a good person is the ability to not only make lemon aid from lemons but, to put the lemon in your mouth taste it and say this ain't that bad.
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I find it ironic that you have a Buddha picture and want to know what makes someone good. In Buddhism, there is no good or evil, there just is. It is like morality, what I may find to be horrific, someone else may find acceptable. Your guilt analogy is false. Someone actually has to perceive what they are doing as wrong to feel guilt. Not feeling guilt for something I did that hurt someone is subject to my interpretation of the event and it does not follow necessarily that I am a "bad" person for not feeling guilt.
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I find it ironic that you have a Buddha picture and want to know what makes someone good. In Buddhism, there is no good or evil, there just is. It is like morality, what I may find to be horrific, someone else may find acceptable. Your guilt analogy is false. Someone actually has to perceive what they are doing as wrong to feel guilt. Not feeling guilt for something I did that hurt someone is subject to my interpretation of the event and it does not follow necessarily that I am a "bad" person for not feeling guilt.
By your reasoning, hermits are evil. I feel if you are not harming anyone or taking rights from anyone, that is "good" enough. To say that you can only be good if you want others to prosper and be happy is incorrect in my opinion. Namely, what is "happy"? Food and shelter? Entertainment and laughter? It's highly subjective.
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I think that "Good" and "Bad" are just labels. Yes, when you see a murderer on TV, someone who would kill someone at random (or, in a planned attempt; which of the two is worse, I can't really say, but they are both evil, disgusting things to do), he or she is assumed a bad person. Most likely, yes, they are mostly 'bad', but maybe not ALL bad. All people, even those who are disgusting and kill or rape, have qualities that are relatively 'good'. It goes back to the days of Adam and Eve (excuse my reference to religion, I don't mean to offend, and this is not particularly a religious matter, so I would really appreciate it if this doesn't spring up any sort of argument about religion) when the first people sinned. It's human nature to do bad and good things and have bad and good traits. Even those we think are generally 'good' people have their 'bad' traits, and their flaws. We are humans, we are not all good, we are not all bad. So, when calling oneself 'good' or 'bad', can you really claim them to be relative terms to a being as a whole?
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I think that "Good" and "Bad" are just labels. Yes, when you see a murderer on TV, someone who would kill someone at random (or, in a planned attempt; which of the two is worse, I can't really say, but they are both evil, disgusting things to do), he or she is assumed a bad person. Most likely, yes, they are mostly 'bad', but maybe not ALL bad. All people, even those who are disgusting and kill or rape, have qualities that are relatively 'good'. It goes back to the days of Adam and Eve (excuse my reference to religion, I don't mean to offend, and this is not particularly a religious matter, so I would really appreciate it if this doesn't spring up any sort of argument about religion) when the first people sinned. It's human nature to do bad and good things and have bad and good traits. Even those we think are generally 'good' people have their 'bad' traits, and their flaws. We are humans, we are not all good, we are not all bad. So, when calling oneself 'good' or 'bad', can you really claim them to be relative terms to a being as a whole?
All of that being said, we still use these terms to refer to ourselves and others, and when asking what determines a person to be 'good', one, I believe, should consider every aspect of themselves or others. Being a good person, in my own opinion, is the want to do good things for reasons beyond the artificial reasons of looking like a good person. It's also feeling guilt when you do wrong, or simply feeling the want to do a good thing, or rather, to not do a bad thing. What defines a 'good' person tends to be a little bit of a personal opinion. Some people see things differently, so really, when trying to be a good person, one should look to their own opinions of what a good person is, and attempt to fulfill their own image of what is right.
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I agree that a good person feels guilt. However, guilt can destroy you. To be good, you have to know when to let go of that guilt, in all ways and situations, for a lifetime. Not easy by any means. Let go of guilt and your light and goodness will shine.
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I don't think a person's is only good based on their actions, but on the internal aspect, such as their motives of their actions. Someone might do a good thing for a bad reason, or a bad thing for a good reason.
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My current view is that "good" is what most of us want to be want to be. (Those who don't, are psychologically ill).
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My current view is that "good" is what most of us want to be want to be. (Those who don't, are psychologically ill).
So why do we "want it"? Because we know deep down that we don't yet "have" it. One doesn't seek that which they know they already have.
So we come up with all kinds of games we can play to try to convince self and others that we indeed are "good". There are guilt and shame games -- if I feel them I'm probably good (No, I would say that indicates you are not psychologically ill). Comparison games are very big right now. (The "Not as bad as a plotter, definitely not as bad as a serial killer, still not as good as so-and-so; and this other person just annoys me that they might be better than I so I'd better find some dirt on them quick! Oh, I'll break the laws of the land when it suits me and if it's something minor . . . but I'm not nearly so badly as Bob down the street! Let me tell you about the time . . . .")
Wanting others to be "happy"? "Happy" is just a bandaid that makes us glad in the moment; but is it granted by the moment "outside of self" and taken away just as easily by "outside agency".
A grim picture? I don't mean it to be; but this "what is".
I think what makes a person "good" is the recognition that nobody truly is good, but recognizing that it is a very desirable condition; combined with the willingness to do whatever is necessary to reach this desired condition.
We all want to be good, or right. Another word for it, is "righteous". And we so desperately want to get there "of ourselves" so we might have a "fully justified self-righteousness".
But the fact that we do not and can not always gets in the way of this fantasy.
We need help to achieve this. Spiritual help.
The view from here.
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A good person is someone you desperately miss, even when they are standing right beside you.
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yeah, you must want good things for others, but also a truly good person (I think) is someone that is able to change inside and able to forgive without pretending.
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A good person: someone who doesn't contradict himself. For example, if he believes this is wrong and that's right, he will be avoiding whatever wrong and doing whatever right.
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A good person: someone who doesn't contradict himself. For example, if he believes this is wrong and that's right, he will be avoiding whatever wrong and doing whatever right.
A good person always treat people the same way he like to be treated. I believe if everyone applies this, which isn't easy, we will be living in a much better world.
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someone that expresses themselves how ever they seem fit regardless of caring about what the next guy might say.
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someone that expresses themselves how ever they seem fit regardless of caring about what the next guy might say.
in other words, someone who deems their style righteous and right on cue
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I think that we label people as "good" when their actions fit with what we want in ourselves. For me, the ultimate representation of "good" is Martin Luther King: he stood up and worked tirelessly for what he believed in (i.e. equal rights and fighting injustice) despite great adversity, and did so without following the beaten path (i.e. violence).
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