I was at the doctor's office today and I overheard this nurse complaining to another about her husband. Maybe it was just that particular incident which sparked her annoyance but some of the things she said hinted at cumulative grievances.
Anyhow, this got me thinking about my tone of voice and the words I say when I'm talking about another, whether it be a family or friend. I'm pretty sure my overall attitude conveys dissatisfaction, petty slights and grudges, and just not a positive image of what I really know of so-said-subject. An outsider might get the impression that I really hate my family or friends and that's not my intention at all.
It was sort of a lightbulb moment of tongue and speech. (I know, it's pretty obvious.) I'm going to start being more aware of how I talk.
If you were talking to an outsider, what tone would your words convey (whether it's about people, work, or whatever else)?