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I barely saw any successful relationships before the age of 20. I consider it good if u never had one.
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Absolutely not. You don't need to have had a relationship to be you. If you are willing to have something special with someone, fate will do the rest :-)
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21. Never had a girlfriend. It may or may not be unusual, but your'e certainly not alone.
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I'm 21 and never had one. Don't get me wrong. I'd love one. I've just never been able to find it.
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not really. i guess it depends on the reason as to why you have never had one, but don't rush into something for the sake of looking "normal".
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I was 23 before I had a relationship that lasted longer than a carton of milk. But then, I am a seriously introverted person. Do not let other people make you feel inadequate because you aren't progressing by their schedule. Relax about it, do what you enjoy doing and believe me, the dating thing will happen.
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I believe that everyone proceeds at their own pace.
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I believe that everyone proceeds at their own pace.
And to get into a relationship just to "prove" you're "usual"??
What does that make the other, but your "test subject".
But part of your process may be, in the proper time, to soberly examine why you are single? Is it a choice based entirely upon freedom? Or is something holding you back, enslaving you? (If there is, then use this time to conquer it and your attractiveness to a potential mate will grow)
Maybe you are one of those few people who are NOT looking for someone else to do the work of "completing you" or defining "who you are"? Maybe you are on the quest for this yourself . . . and when the time comes you can offer yourself to a prospective mate as a "complete package" and not as something half-finished that you are going to sit back and let another complete for you. This too will make you increasingly attractive to a potential mate.
Be who you are going to be; who you choose to be.
And take the time to ask yourself why you choose to be this way. Do it as a free person, and not as a slave to fear or self-doubt or indecision.
(Also consider that your friends might need to you do as they have done (a relationship just to prove something) to prove to them that THEY'RE normal! And your grandparents are perhaps just hot for grandchildren and are disappointed you haven't given them any. If they're that desperate, buy them a puppy!)
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I dont know if it is unusual or not. I was 21 when I had my first serious relationship ( and felt head over heels in love) but I did have intimacy issues. My parents had a rotten marriage and were both disfunctional and very controlling of me. I had also had experience with sexual molestation as a child, so sex wasn`t something I took lightly. It was about boundary issues.
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I dont know if it is unusual or not. I was 21 when I had my first serious relationship ( and felt head over heels in love) but I did have intimacy issues. My parents had a rotten marriage and were both disfunctional and very controlling of me. I had also had experience with sexual molestation as a child, so sex wasn`t something I took lightly. It was about boundary issues.
I`d say it depends on the REAL reason for your not having an interest in a relationship before.
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I would suggest that if you permit this to worry you, there is a risk that you would go into a relationship for the wrong reason.
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I would suggest that if you permit this to worry you, there is a risk that you would go into a relationship for the wrong reason.
After all, you wouldn't wear sandpaper underwear just because it's all you could get in a hurry. Wait around for the good, 100% cotton stuff.
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But what of those who are unhappily single :P
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But what of those who are unhappily single :P
I've never been in a relationship before, i've always been single, and its hard sometimes to look at people all around you who are happily in one, but its true, i guess, that it all happens in its own time.
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