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The best thing I do to take care of myself is have a non-work day where I write a "prescription for happiness" full of things that will feel nourishing or adventurous or that I often complain I don't get to spend enough time doing. My list would probably include things like doing yoga, going for a walk, taking a bath, playing piano, writing, luxuriating in the sun on a blanket in the park, etc. Restful and creative sorts of things. I make the list exhaustive, so that I'm not tempted to spend any time of that day doing anything else. I've only done it a few times, but every time I get to the end of the day and I feel so good! It feels loving to give myself permission to really rest and recharge in a meaningful way.
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Self acceptance and self respect come before self love. And this is what it looks like to me right now: http://www.thelovingheartcafe.com/2012/04/18/naked-self/
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It's the things you do when no one else is watching. There are a lot of people that like to do things to make themselves look good while they are in front of people. But when no one is around (or if they feel like no one sees them), they may do rude or nasty things. I always like to ask the question: "Who are you when no one is looking?" You will find that those people who have self respect will take care of things whether people are there or not.
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I self-respect by respecting others. Something that can be hard to understand but I have been taught it by my father.
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I self-respect by respecting others. Something that can be hard to understand but I have been taught it by my father.
Self-respect: Following what you believe in, avoiding what you believe is wrong to do, and since we are all humans/wrong doers, we all do mistakes, then hide your mistakes and never brag about them as they are normal things to do. That's what I believe self-respect is.
The opposite I believe is something like being a hypocrite, which means pretending being someone else just to fool people or earn their trust. Those hypocrites have nothing to do with self-respect I believe.
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reading no articles about what society wants me to be or look like; no random or uncommitted hookups; allowing myself to be imperfect and looking at those imperfections as things which make me unique; doing what i want in spite of everyone else being unhappy with their own lives; eating right; sleeping well.
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To me it's all about self improvement. If we care and respect ourselves we'd pull ourselves out of whatever hole we may be in, and seek to grow as a person.
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To me it's all about self improvement. If we care and respect ourselves we'd pull ourselves out of whatever hole we may be in, and seek to grow as a person.
Love thyself if it helps, if not then self loathing may be more likely to help you improve.
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It looks like a healthy respect for who and what I am, balanced in conjunction with a healthy respect for who and what everyone and everything around me is.
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It looks like a healthy respect for who and what I am, balanced in conjunction with a healthy respect for who and what everyone and everything around me is.
And I think what JesseAdrian offered below is wise. Without humility as a part of self-respect, the balance is off: and psychological ailments can and do loom.
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you know that instruction in airline safety drills?
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you know that instruction in airline safety drills?
"first put the oxygen mask over your own face before trying to fix one for your child...."
there is more to it than this - but the principle illustrates some of the wrong ideas about how we should love others and not ourselves.
The more-to-it includes giving yourself treats, asking for help when you need it, not trying to drain yourself to help others, accepting compliments and help from others without embarrassment - which makes it easier to also give to others...
forgiving yourself your inevitable failings, appreciating your warts as well as your strengths, not trying to reject them as some strange intrusion... they are all part of you...
you have to love the whole you - and when you do - the good is raised up and the not so good is diminished.
the saying "love thy neighbour as thyself" is mis-read by most - you have to love yourself first, then you can love your neighbour -
if you don't love yourself you have nothing to give.
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