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Back in the day I used to make sure I was liked by everyone. Now I'm a little older and a little less worried about what everybody thinks. I notice they seem to like me more when I don't care. Occasionally there's the select person, usually at work who is extra rude, extra weird, and extra extra.... usually they don't last long and I go back to my routine. I find strength in liking myself. At the end of the day, as long as I respect myself, others will too.
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I used to make such a big deal if people didn't like me. But now I realized that those who mind, don't matter. And those who matter, don't mind. It's all about being real. But you gotta be real with yourself first, then to others. It's really up to them if they would accept the real you or not. If they don't, to hell with it. Just put them into the "don't matter" category. You'll be fine.
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I agree with what some have already said here. If someone didn't like me, I would want to be treated with respect at the very least. It is not possible to be friends with everybody. Truthfully, there are some people I choose not to be friends with for whatever reason, but I still act civil when I have to interact with them. Learning to stop being so sensitive is something I struggle with from time to time, but I consider it an important life lesson.
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For the most part I don't care what people think of me. It's really just my close friends and family that I worry about pissing off the most.
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For the most part I don't care what people think of me. It's really just my close friends and family that I worry about pissing off the most.
I mean, yes sometimes it hurts when someone talks bad about you and you find out some how, but I don't dwell on anything more than asking myself "is important to me because they think I'm a bad person or do we just don't get along?" and if its the former, then I work on it, and if its the latter, then I move on.
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Although I don't crave approval or recognition, I feel blessed when others take the time to positively validate my contributions in life. Most of what I do is in effort to improve the quality of life around me, if I work hard at something, appreciation from even one person makes it worthwhile.
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I think a lot of people take being "liked" as a sign of approval from others. When someone posts things online or says things out loud they usually look for some sign of approval from everyone else to feel like they're doing something right.
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I think a lot of people take being "liked" as a sign of approval from others. When someone posts things online or says things out loud they usually look for some sign of approval from everyone else to feel like they're doing something right.
Of course there are people out there afraid of being liked or unliked and accepted by others with what they say and do, including me. it's an ongoing battle I'm trying to overcome, but I've realized that it really doesn't matter if i'm "liked" and "accepted" and "approved" of by others, if I don't like, accept, and approve of myself first.
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I am a children's entertainer so part of my job is to be liked, no, loved. I have found especially as of late, that the more I don't care what people think (as long as I am not hurting anyone) the more people love me. Perhaps its that I become more relaxed the less I care about what people think. The more natural I am the more people flock to me.
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I am a children's entertainer so part of my job is to be liked, no, loved. I have found especially as of late, that the more I don't care what people think (as long as I am not hurting anyone) the more people love me. Perhaps its that I become more relaxed the less I care about what people think. The more natural I am the more people flock to me.
I learned to say no, and I say it often, and believe it or not, children respect it. I say, I'm sorry but this is my last balloon, I have another party. They accept it.
Funny thing is, I am most often a clown, and kids LOVE it when I am mean. The more I say and do things that are mean the more they laugh.
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i think being liked is important but only to the point where the rewards gained from being liked out weighs the inconvenience of trying to get people to like me. I can't sacrifice my happiness for someone else's approval. to me it just seems unhealthy and i can't kill my self just to see a stranger smile because I know they wouldn't do the same for me...
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I don't change myself so that others will like me arbitrarily, but I do worry a lot over whether or not people approve of me. Personally, I think anyone who says they don't care what others think is just hoping that others think they don't care, because I cannot picture not caring about what people think.
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I think I spend a huge amount of time worrying about people liking me. I'm worried if my boss likes me, my friends like me, and I try to please my family. Then I get horribly resentful about what I do and no one appreciates it. OR I get depressed for much the same reason. I working on working this out but I have yet to figure what the middle ground or balance point is!
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When I was younger, this was very important. Now, I realize that folks are pretty tied up in their lives, and the way they react to others is not always their true selves...it's a combination of feelings...what's happening at that moment, the fact that folks don't want to complicate their lives any further with more people, and that I was being too sensitive. My life is full, with the people I want to be in my life. I'm happy, and I try to make them happy. Also, the fact that someone disagrees with you, does not mean that they don't like you.
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There is always a fear of being alone, I think that everyone has. But as far as being liked, I am an open minded person, and I try my hardest to be a good person, even in overwhelming odds. I never judge people before I get to know them, unless they are an outright a*s muncher from the get go, and I try my hardest to treat everyone with the respect that they deserve, as people. I have just about made a religion based around these principals. But even after all this, I still meet people all the time, who insist on not liking me. My personal opinion is, to hell with them. They obviously aren’t descent people, so why should I care what they think. Asd long as you love yourself, keeping your ego in check, the opinions of others shouldn’t matter…
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I used to be disingenuous out of the fear that I would not be excepted. Now I do it out of courtesy, because I know that some people can't handle the real me.
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I used to be disingenuous out of the fear that I would not be excepted. Now I do it out of courtesy, because I know that some people can't handle the real me.
I care more about what I think about me (with a few exceptions).
I couldn't care less about literal "likes" online.
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I don't necessarily need to be "liked" but "respected". I realize that not everyone is going to like me, so I'd prefer being treated well as the alternative.
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My problem is that I am too true to myself. I am told by many people after they start talking to me that I am "unique," "an interesting character," or just flat out "weird." I know what I have to say or do to fit in more, and I do find myself talking to the right people occasionally. But once I start actually talking they all back off ha. I usually stay quiet. Then I'm the pretty quiet girl instead of the raging weird one no one wants to talk to.
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Extremely important at least in face to face interactions. I always find myself biting my tongue so as to avoid confrontation. My desire to be like always seems to trump my desire to voice my opinion.
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I must be very important my daughter once called me an "Approval w***e" OUCH! I try to keep the peace, go along to get along..... I'm working on it....
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Caring what people think about me too much is one of my biggest problems. I think my social anxiety and reclusiveness have a lot to do with it. I would rather make a good impression on someone and avoid talking to them ever again than allow them to be disillusioned with the first impression and know me for me.
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I enjoy the thought of being liked very much. But I also care about my world enough that I want to change the parts that I find broken. To change the world is to challenge the status quo. And challenging the status quo tends to make one quite disagreeable to those whose comfort is being upset. It may be that I am in error. It may be that I haven't the skill to use tact where appropriate. But for the benefit of my sleep, and for that face I find in the mirror, I am obligated to do what I feel is right, and to be thankful for that small handful of people who appreciate my contributions.
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I believe in the notion that the more we like who we ourselves are (short of narcissism) . . . the less important (essential) it is for us to garner "likes" from others.
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I believe in the notion that the more we like who we ourselves are (short of narcissism) . . . the less important (essential) it is for us to garner "likes" from others.
(As if their approval somehow validates us. Talk about inherent feelings of worthlessness.)
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by the people I value as friends, of course...
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by the people I value as friends, of course...
Anyone else it's a nice bonus...
Those who believe it doesn't matter that no one likes them tend to be sociopaths
(egoist said this once I think :-/ )
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