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I think there is some context required to define a point of maturity. It's not the same as wisdom. I'd postulate that maturity is a prerequisite to wisdom.
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I think there is some context required to define a point of maturity. It's not the same as wisdom. I'd postulate that maturity is a prerequisite to wisdom.
From an agricultural analogy, mature means that one has progressed to a point to be useful; eaten, reproducing or turned into a park bench. Utility depends on the desired function or purpose, so maturity must as well.
Perhaps we are physically mature when we can use our muscles to do more work than required to survive.
Perhaps we are emotionally mature when we can put the feelings of others ahead of our own.
Perhaps we are mentally mature when our mind can produce original ideas.
I'm sure there are other types of maturity as well.
Also, watch out for the misleading appearance of maturity. Some people are like artificially-ripened tomatoes.
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Contentment. Eventually we loose the joy of living, exploring, and creating. When you're mature you don't take paths, you just laugh at the people who are worried about which way to go. ....seems entirely immature, doesn't it? Life is a cycle...
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being able to make rational decisions that are well-thought through. when you start thinking of people other than yourself. being able to step back and listen and learn from other people.
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What I dont understand is why people say you are being immature when you are acting happy and they see it as being a child but some people said down below that being mature is not dwelling on the bad, and that is what children do they are innocent they can only see the good. So why are people called immature when they are acting happy, goofy and carfree?
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Maturity as I have read it, can be found in the movements of a person's body. I have read books on body language and most of them say the fewer movements we make the more mature we are. These are in the books I read and they do not provide much evidence for this, but when you think about it, it makes sense. When you are a child you are constantly fidgeting and moving unnecessarily, as we grow old, we move when we have to, and we don't fidget in our chairs.
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Maturity as I have read it, can be found in the movements of a person's body. I have read books on body language and most of them say the fewer movements we make the more mature we are. These are in the books I read and they do not provide much evidence for this, but when you think about it, it makes sense. When you are a child you are constantly fidgeting and moving unnecessarily, as we grow old, we move when we have to, and we don't fidget in our chairs.
I feel maturity is deciding what you need to do, and taking the necessary stops in order to do it.
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As long as your bills are paid, youve got a good job you dont mess around with. You are mature in my book, get your sh*t in order and i dont care what else you do. I finger paint all the time, it makes me happy. Im 20 years old and pay $800 a month in bills. That are always on time, I consider myself very mature. Even when im finger painting.
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I love this question, because it's thrown out all the time by those who feel they have the corner on exactly what maturity is, grow up they say, when they can't control you. So there you have it, is maturity looked at as a form of being under the thumb of those who'd like to control and dominate?
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I think it mostly has to do with being self absorbed. Adolescents tend to not cope very well with anything.
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I think it mostly has to do with being self absorbed. Adolescents tend to not cope very well with anything.
I just went through a break up with a girl who was a little younger than me. A kid. I'm a kid too, I'm 21. But through this break up I'm starting to realize what maturity really is. It has nothing to do with social norms, to me. It's all about the way you react to stimuli in your life. Coping with life's stressors in a healthy way. Never letting life bog you down. It's a frame of mind. It has nothing to do with what is perceived as normal.
Someone below mentioned that NOT looking outward for your own happiness is a sign of maturity. I agree. It's like a zen state or something. Being able to look outside of yourself, and accepting things as they come. Never dwelling on the bad.
That's how I'm seeing it right now, anyways.
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I think maturity comes down to dedication, humility, and honor. It has nothing to do with acting "normal." Normal is a matter of perception.
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Maturity involves accepting responsibility for people and things other than yourself. When you've been described as mature, you are an individual that understands that there is more to the world than situations revolving around yourself. It is deriving a definition for the world around you and acknowledging that definition.
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I don't think maturity can be based on how orthodox the method of the action is -- as much as that the action is even being taken. I think maturity is doing whatever it takes to do what needs to be done especially when it is something you don't want to do.
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I don't think maturity can be based on how orthodox the method of the action is -- as much as that the action is even being taken. I think maturity is doing whatever it takes to do what needs to be done especially when it is something you don't want to do.
People aren't weird, they just require more understanding.
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You become a mature person when you take responsibility for your own happiness. When you stop blaming anyone or anything else. When you stop looking outside of yourself for your worth.
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You become a mature person when you take responsibility for your own happiness. When you stop blaming anyone or anything else. When you stop looking outside of yourself for your worth.
Be yourself, no apologies, no excuses, no fear. Then share your beautiful, perfectly, imperfect self with the world.
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Realizing that you Don't know everything. Listening and learning,,, Caring more about someone else than yourself.
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A person is mature when the accept the responsibility for all their decisions and actions.
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A person is mature when the accept the responsibility for all their decisions and actions.
This is why you have many young people who are mature and many older people who are immature.
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Traits that come to mind:
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Traits that come to mind:
Honesty - Ability to be comfortable portraying the world just as you know it.
Empathy - Ability to understand the needs of others and be of help.
Apology - Ability to admit flaws and fault so that growth can follow.
Ultimately, I think maturity comes down to falling into patterns that keep us aware and growing.
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Tricky question, and it's actually one I've been asking myself lately. I do believe society expects us to stop being eccentric and, basically, 'weird' by a certain age; but the most interesting people I have met over the years are above 50. Why? Because they sort of refused to go for that path and instead chose to actually lead their own lives, sooner or later.
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Tricky question, and it's actually one I've been asking myself lately. I do believe society expects us to stop being eccentric and, basically, 'weird' by a certain age; but the most interesting people I have met over the years are above 50. Why? Because they sort of refused to go for that path and instead chose to actually lead their own lives, sooner or later.
I think being mature is realizing you are not the center of the Universe, that you have to make big decisions you will not like most of the time, and that you are living in a bittersweet world, where the opportunities of getting to know yourself come with the price of letting go of stereotypes and known paths, and just letting your Self go and be free.
I think everyone eventually finds their path, some sooner, some later, but the difference is that sometimes we are too afraid to let go of things and then decide not to go for it. Then again, this is still a decision you took, so you are choosing your path.
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Everyone does stupid things, as kids and as adults. But I think the ultimate signs of maturity come with experience, and knowing how to react in a none selfish way, under adult circumstances. But there are times in adulthood, where doing the selfish thing, is the proper course of action. There are also varying degrees of maturity. I have met people in their sixties, who act like they are in their teens. I have come to notice, that there are basically two types of elderly people. The people who came to a certain age, in their teens, twenty’s, or thirties perhaps, and threw in the towel with the learning of new things, thinking that they are at an age, where they know now how the World works, and there is no longer any need to be open minded, even though the lot of them have barely even left their back yards. These people seem to be very closed off to the Ideas of others, due to the fact that they are older, and obviously know better. Then you have the other sort of elderly person, that never seemed to stop learning, and observing the World, as they walk it. People who have ever been humble enough, to stay the learner, gaining sixty plus years, in total open minded experience. These people are amazing, when you meet them, they are happy, bright, and always outlive everyone else, knowing full well that there is nothing to fear from death. My Mail Man has been with the post office for fifty five years. He is one of these Creatures of total wisdom, and doesn’t look a day over fifty. I found out a few months ago, that he just turned eighty, and has no intention of retiring any time soon. I tend to annoy these people when I find them, because all I want to do is follow them around…LOL…
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Stuff I touch does not fall apart. Or falls apart in interesting ways. I am not mature and seriously doubt that I would want to be.
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Stuff I touch does not fall apart. Or falls apart in interesting ways. I am not mature and seriously doubt that I would want to be.
Maturity is for cheeses. I am not ready to be eaten.
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Yesterday, I asked a rhetorical question; "is it immature of me not wanting to fall into the "norm" and want to secure a well paying job at this time in my life, but I've decided to take some time to figure out what direction I want to take in my life in. Take the risk and pay the price to follow my dreams or should i feel hurried to find a job thats secure has a good retirement plan and pays the bills?
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Yesterday, I asked a rhetorical question; "is it immature of me not wanting to fall into the "norm" and want to secure a well paying job at this time in my life, but I've decided to take some time to figure out what direction I want to take in my life in. Take the risk and pay the price to follow my dreams or should i feel hurried to find a job thats secure has a good retirement plan and pays the bills?
I pretty much know which direction I want to take, but I had someone question my decision, due to my age (33). Who decides at 33 to quit her job and goes out in search of her dreams? My ex-manager questioned me; He stared at me with looks that was labeling me as immature.
I've always found it to be an act of courage, those who take the risk to make their dreams reality.
My eyes are wide open, I know my responsibilities, I know the risks that I am taking, but I also know that it will haunt me for the rest of my life if I do not try.
Maturity is about growing on all areas of life, growing into that well rounded full Being and walk the path that your soul came to this earth to walk.
Its not about following a set of unwritten rules and written rules that society has subjected to humans on how they should, but more like following the unwritten rules that are written on your life's path.
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In my view, these are some signs of maturity:
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In my view, these are some signs of maturity:
- Willingness to be accountable for one's actions and words.
-Thinking ahead. Foreseeing the likely consequences of a decision
and then either doing that or changing your decision.
-Being responsible for your own financial stability. Paying your
own bills and not expecting others to take care of you.
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There is the right way to do things...and the wrong ...and the way that works ;))
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*. Realizing that you are not the center of the universe, but a player in it.
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*. Realizing that you are not the center of the universe, but a player in it.
* Understanding that others were not put here for the expressed purpose of making your blissfully happy or dreadfully miserable.
* Seeing that forgiveness is not weakness or defeat, but a great strength.
* Choosing your attitude and how you respond to things instead of reacting.
* Stopping the use self degradation and flagellation as a means to growth.
* Being in the present moment.
* Developing your powers of observation as well as your powers of speech.
* Being able to find the funny, the good, the things to be grateful for.
* Letting go of who you think you are in order to become what you might be.
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Being able to handle your own life and the lives of your dependents in your own adult way. No two adults approach handling things the same, so who's to say who is the more mature one. Maturity starts when you take command of your life. When you are able to take on any situation and carry your own weight in this world without being a burden to anyone else.
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There is no line
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There is no line
You can behave in a mature manner, to varying degrees, in different contexts.
Example
I can resist being drawn into an argument and help get two people to settle their differences using cool calm reflective words based on my maturity...
Or half way through the squabble I can get pissed off and decide to just squirt crazy foam over the two protaganists....
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