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Things can happen randomly and still shape who we are. Ultimately, the question is whether who we are now is a predetermined thing (in which case all things happen for a reason), or if the person we are the result of random events (in which case there is not really any reason to the madness).
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We're all products of planet Earth... The "negative space"- what we can't control, is just that- something we can't control. We are products of the dichotomy of what we have power over, what we delusional believe we can control but can't- and what we know we can not control. That is life.
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Colored, not shaped. We participate in our environment, as agents of freedom. We also participate in the attitude with which we allow events to influence us. At least I'd say.
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Yes, I believe that everything that has happened to me has shaped my personality. I believe everything happens for a reason. I hope this helps, I know it's helped me; I don't think that I could accept everything that I've been through if it weren't for this belief.
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Yes, i do believe that what ever influences you as a child determans who you will become as an adult. Thats why its important on how your parents raise you. Your past will ketch up to your adulthood and what you do as an adult will fall into your childrens life.
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I believe that the things that happen around us do change us, but it is more of how we react to the things that happen to us that shapes who we are.
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If i may, i would like to broaden this up as "Is there a fate/destiny or is everything just happenstance/coincidence?"
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If i may, i would like to broaden this up as "Is there a fate/destiny or is everything just happenstance/coincidence?"
Things happen, and depending on who we are and what role we played in that situation, we view it differently and take different things away from that experience. With destiny, it seems that there is one main objective that you are(for the most part) not aware of and this thing is what you eventually become. With coincidence , its a happening that is also quite unexpected but seems to be (at the time) completely random. However, don't enough coincidences (when added up) usually hint at fate/destiny? Is there any real difference besides that scope in which we look at our life with? When you look at something through a microscope, something that is very clear to the human eye, is it not blurry or make little sense? in that same way, couldn't everything that happen to us be that blurry image, and only with hindsight and a good step back, do we see the whole thing?
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Three things. My experiences shape me, I shape my self and I am who I am regardless of time.
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Three things. My experiences shape me, I shape my self and I am who I am regardless of time.
It is good to know how you got where you are, but be careful when looking to the past for answers. Human memories are deceptive, they change all the time (as your perspective changes, and because of what other people tell you). Memories fade for a reason, we weren't meant to hold on to the past. The only real truth is love.
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I think everything that happens shapes a person to be who they WANT to be. You may not be able to control what happens to you but you CAN control how you react to those things and what you do about them, which in a way is great because you get to be the exact person that you WANT to be. but do i think there is a reason that bad (or good) things happen...? No. In every situation you can learn something, but did it happen just so you COULD learn something? no. It is a lot easier to justify the good things that happen, and a lot harder to accept that bad things happen. I think that overall you have to look at your life the way it is RIGHT NOW if you are happy, then you did the right thing, and if you aren't then maybe it's time to change somethings. Unfortunately the only thing you can do with the situations that seem to have no reason is just let them go, and that's a hard lesson that i'm trying to learn. Best of luck in your transition. I hope you become a beautiful butterfly. :)
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Here's a quote that I love;
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Here's a quote that I love;
Your journey has molded you for your greater good
And it was exactly what it needed to be.
Don't think you've lost time.
It took each and every situation you have encountered
To bring you to the now.
And now is right on time.
(Aisha Tyson)
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I still believe what goes around comes around, and some narrow escapes in my past have impacted my life and outlook now.
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Absolutely.
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Absolutely.
Even a past of abuse, forgiven and daily overcome, turns to gold with each person I can identify with and be of assist to. Difficult paths make for rare wisdom and gifts; the kinds of things the average person would categorize as "too expensive" to willingly seek. So each generation I visualize a population of "strong ones" set side to find and carry this wisdom. (Which is less "aggrandizing" than it sounds. It needs to be "strong" to offset "the horrors" of abuse upon "the victim" and give them a chance to win over it.)
And these "rare things" are necessary wisdoms and skills and will continue to be needed up to the moment when we collectively finally learn to stop preying one upon another for our own perceived needs and/or glory. The "gold" that I've paid dearly to acquire, is going to keep "paying off" for the society as a whole for a good while longer.
(Because it seems we are currently only interested in how we can ease our passage at the expense of others. I have good "job security" . . . but would set it down in a heartbeat and "retire" if the need for what I offer would no longer exist!)
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We all do this at some point. I have found most of the events in my past had a reasoning behind them. Even the negative ones.
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Thats pretty much the essense of psychoanalysis. I even got back to some painful memories from when I was 6 months old. The problem is, many of the strongest influences in our lives which formed us are from very early stages in our life. What we have experienced as babies and preverbally can in fact have the most impact.
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Thats pretty much the essense of psychoanalysis. I even got back to some painful memories from when I was 6 months old. The problem is, many of the strongest influences in our lives which formed us are from very early stages in our life. What we have experienced as babies and preverbally can in fact have the most impact.
Areyou doing this with psychoanalyst? It is hard to get to the content of our subconscious by ourselves.
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You made choices and that shapes your life and who you are. Things just happen randomly and by choice.
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I think it does shape you, but you choose in which way. You can either let your past destroy you or you can overcome it. It is a complete choice.
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In terms of exactly why things in my life happened, I am unsure right now. But I know that it made me a more compassionate person and very understanding person. Also, I am able to handle stress better than the average person and know what to do in many life situations because of what has happened in my past. So yes, I believe it has shaped me to who I am now. Suffering can be good.
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In terms of exactly why things in my life happened, I am unsure right now. But I know that it made me a more compassionate person and very understanding person. Also, I am able to handle stress better than the average person and know what to do in many life situations because of what has happened in my past. So yes, I believe it has shaped me to who I am now. Suffering can be good.
It might be helpful to write your life like a book...I plan on doing that soon. It might help you understand more.
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Random madness with a sprinkling of purposeful reason has pretty much shaped who I am.
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Undoubtedly, but you may not know how a certain event or sequence of events affected you until years later. Even examining your life now, may miss things that will be important later on
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It certainly can, but it doesn't overall determine who you are. Nature and Nurture do play roles in our games of life, but they are OUR games, after all!
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No. I do not believe that happenings have shaped you. They perhaps partially influenced you. I believe you shaped yourself.
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Oh yeah of course. If I had a "normal" childhood I probably wouldn't be the sick mothafucker I am today lol.
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