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You're Gonna Die!

Based on your family history, lifestyle choices and general attitude toward life, how do you predict you will die, and when? Are you seriously doing anything to prevent an early death, or are you knowingly preventing your own longevity? Whether sooner or later, what preparations, if any, are you making for your inevitable demise?

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what i meant is we are all gonna die why spend your LIFE worrying about DEATH

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Cancer is all over my family. I don't smoke cigarettes or go in tanning beds. I do however spend hours in the sun with no lotion and drink alcohol. i jump out of planes, and off of bridges and cliffs, i ride mechanical bulls, and i live to take chances. Death is a part of life and I refuse to go through life in fear of it ending. I never want to have to ask "what if?" I will probably die happy while doing something wild and having fun, and I wouldn't want it any other way. "No pleasure is worth giving up for the sake of two more years in a geriatric home" – Kingsley Amis

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I could live forever, or a plane could fall out of the sky and land on my head as I am typing this. Instead of thinking about "how" or "when" I'm going to die, I am more focused on the "living right now" part... If and when my heart eases to a stand-still or that 747 flattens me out, I want to die with a smile on my face. I try my best to live every moment in the best and happiest way possible.

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well, since i'll be dead, i honestly won't care what happens to my body. but i'm kinda hoping for a viking funeral. i would LOVE to be set on fire. i want my death to be the party of the year. wild orgys, orgasms everywhere, open bar of course...

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I don't know how I'll die and I'm not afraid of it. The way I look at it, if I die young--what's so wrong with that? I went in my prime, when I was the most beautiful, the most spontaneous, lively and eager. Who doesn't want to be remembered that way? If I die middle-aged, I'll have had children and been able to pass something of me onto them. It's tragic to lose a parent, but they'll have a sense of wisdom beyond their ears. Perhaps it will give them inspiration in a weird way, like my late friend has given me. And if I die old, I'll have lived a long life. What more can I ask for? Either way, I'm with God.

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I lost my first grandparent last year. He was 80. My other granparents are 75, 83 and 84. I have pretty good genes, but I've also lived a little harder than my parents or grandparents (the occasional "few too many" drinks). On the other hand, I eat heathier (my grandparents were raised on bacon, whole milk, and butter), and have benefitted from the advances in medicine over the last fifty years. I think the odds are in my favor as far as longevity goes. I try to balance healthy living with the need to indulge once in a while. I have no idea when or how I will die, and I don't let it affect my day to day life.

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My husband has heart issues in his family, heart disease, heart attacks, that sort of thing, so that's a possibility for him. I have no such issues really, I remember great grandparents I had, one who eventually had alzheimer's, and my grandmother had pancreatic cancer and died last year but that's it really. So who knows for me. But since having two deaths in my family a year apart considerations for what to do after have begun. And after discussing various options, hubby and I agreed we'd like to be buried at a green cemetery. Along with our cat (so probably when he dies is when we'll buy our plots). If you don't know what a green cemetery is it's probably because they're still pretty new, although most states have one. Basically you are buried in something biodegradable, either a coffin or just a shroud (or you can be cremated first, again in a more ecologically friendly way than normal) and buried in a plot of wild land. Nothing lines the grave, no embalming, what makes you up is put back into the earth and recycled for use. Usually trees and flowers are planted on top of you and your family can locate your site using gps, sometimes grave markers are allowed, if you use stone(s) that's indigenous to the area.

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Honestly, I couldn't guess, there's just too darn many way to die. I'm constantly amazed by the fact that I'm alive, that all the things that COULD go wrong, hasn't. I have a wishlist, though, including living "forever" (until I choose to die, which would be a very long time from now) or dying in my sleep all nice and peaceful. I'm happy living the kind of life where death has to make a little effort to get to me. My major riskfactors are, in order: obesity-related diseases, cancer and the suchlike, electrocution from malfunctioning laptop, choking and being snuggled to death by my cat. Number one on the list of ways I really really DON'T want to die: Being eaten by zombies. I'll take a good being tortured to death before I take zombies.

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My only thought regarding my final curtain call is that if I do say anything worth repeating on my death bed, it starts with "I wish I hadn't.." rather than "I wish I had..."

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I hope to die creatively. Dying in my sleep is way too...repeticious. I fall asleep every single night; I already know what that feels like. This is morbid, but I like talking about it.

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sick question.how am i supose to know how am i going to die?we all die is it important to know how,hope i do not wake up in my coffin.

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I just hope I don't die in the middle of doing something embarrassing. I'd rather be known as the woman who died heroically, single-handedly saving a bus full of children from plummeting off a cliff into the ocean than, like, the lady that died while belching in the middle of the cat litter aisle of the supermarket.

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Someone whose name now escapes me said something to the effect that the way we die is the way we live. If we live a good life, if we are loving, generous, compassionate, and honorable, this is how we die. So, I prepare for death by strivng to consistently be my best person. I have read that those who continue to learn new things and stay active mentally and physically live longer and are less prone to the effects of senility. So I continue to find ways to keep learning, growing, and moving. My family knows that I don't want a funeral. Instead I want a party, with good food, lots of music, and lots of laughter. And then I want my ashes scattered from the top of Mount Mansfield (Vermont's tallest mountain).

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I'm personally excited to die! (No, but seriously I am.) I just live my life. I die when I die.

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The only preparation that I'm making right now is to pray for the progression of my eternal soul, this earthly fleshly body will be decayed, and return back to the dust it was created. So at the time of this earthly death the worms, ants, possum, will have a great feast of eating the flesh thereof. On my headstone should read these words. "GOD IS GOOD, AND GOD IS GREAT AND WE THANK HIM FOR THIS FOOD!" feast on crittles.

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After I posted that last one, I remembered a story I read in the news. It was about an old man who had lived a very racist hatefull life. He had beaten lots of african americans and was very strong in his opinions on segregation. But as he aged and got closer to his death, he decided he needed to do what he could to make things better. He sought out some of the men he had taken part in beating, one of which was an influential equal rights activist who became a politician, and apologized. It was a very inspiring story to read about how this man changed from a hateful racist to a loving equal rights supporter. It's funny what death can inspire. It would be hard to let go of hate that you had held on to for so long and publicly apologize despite knowing that you would still be hated for what you had done.

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Kudos to you @joliverjohnson for asking the question that separates humans from all other living things. We used to go camping when I was a kid, and my mom would say that we should leave our campsite cleaner than we found it. I really never thought about this in this way until you asked, but I think I want to leave a little sparkle in some heart to leave life cleaner than I found it. Iroquois people say to consider the 7th generation in all our actions. I admire that, and may aspire to it, but for now, if I could lighten my own load in this life, I could hope it might be catchin', so to speak: that I might be able to lighten someone else's load as well by lightening my own. I guess that is how I will prepare for my inevitable demise, now that you ask it so forthrightly. Thanks!

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I always just assumed I'd die from either cancer or from self-poisoning of alcohol and tobacco, like most or all of my grandparents did before I was born. My father seems bent on dying this way, though he combats the chain-smoking, physical inactivity and the binge-eating of all things unhealthy with heart surgeries and medication. He's made it to almost 60 so far, so it seems to be working. Dying this way was not only possible for me, but also very acceptable. At least I'd go out enjoying life, I thought. But since having three kids, I've had to clean up my act for fear of missing them grow up or leaving them without a father. Now, it seems, an early death may still be lurking right around the corner, no matter how healthy I try to make myself. I cannot change my family's history of cancer, nor can I completely change my extremely high blood pressure and generally bad heart. If I had to predict my route to death, I would bet that a heart attack at a young age will result in my demise. This being the case, I am doing my best to leave nothing unfinished. I have detailed how I'd like my funeral to play out and what is to become of my body. I make sure my life insurance is always up-to-date, and I make sure my children know of my love and pride for them. Beyond that, there is nothing more I can do. As a writer, however, it has been pointed out to me that many of my own favorite writers have died as a result of suicide at relatively old ages. While I have no plans to end my life by my own hand, I don't believe many young people have these plans in sight for their golden years. If the truth must be told, I'd rather pull the trigger with a wrinkled finger than to clutch my chest with a young man's hand.

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I honestly have no idea. Diseases such as, Cancer, heart disease, and high blood pressure run in my family. I have such great genes LOL

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