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All is fair in love and war... Or is it?

Love. War. 2 different things. Both can destroy. Both make changes happen in life that we were not counting with.

And then, you think you found love. You're in knee deep. And something happens, that rips your heart out and takes your loved one away from you. A situation, another person, an addiction, distance... you name it.

How far will you go?

I can say when I'm in, I'm in. I want to live without regrets. I don't wonder what could have happened if... And I have fought for what I wanted. A really wild side of me comes out. A side I never knew existed.

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i think love is war and war is caused by love but they are not fair.

I agree with that statement.
If I was in a war I would steal out love from all the women I captured since we one. Victory gets the spoils and that includes all the women.

Perhaps better phrasing would be "All's fair when looking for gain".

And whether that "gain" is land, resources, bragging rights, victory over a foe, or mining what you feel you need for yourself out of a co-dependent relationship masquerading as love?

It's all the same process. It's just turned around and worn in different ways.
It can be superficially comforting to say, "It was war/love . . . so these treacherous things I did . . . are suddenly "fair". Right? After all, it was love/war???".
The need to justify it externally with words . . . means one is having trouble internally justifying it!

But also for consideration is "true love". If something happens that separates you and you find you have to set aside or sublimate yourself and your needs for a time? In the face of true love, you would count this as "a fair trade-off".

I hold little respect for those who use the lowest means possible to belittle the other adversary.

Kahlil Gibran: On Love
"Then said Almitra, "Speak to us of Love."

And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said:

When love beckons to you follow him,

Though his ways are hard and steep.

And when his wings enfold you yield to him,

Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.

And when he speaks to you believe in him,

Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.

Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,

So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.

He threshes you to make you naked.

He sifts you to free you from your husks.

He grinds you to whiteness.

He kneads you until you are pliant;

And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,

Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,

Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.

Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;

For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, "I am in the heart of God."

And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.

But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.

To know the pain of too much tenderness.

To be wounded by your own understanding of love;

And to bleed willingly and joyfully.

To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with gratitude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips."

Yeah, everything is fair in love and war, I would do anything for love.

"love and war, in heaven and in hell,
You get what you deserve-- you'd better spend it well.
All is fair in love and war-- and love,
A civil war like this, it always sells itself." - Rilo Kiley

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I agree with that statement.
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I hold little respect for those who use the lowest means possible to belittle the other adversary.

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Yeah, everything is fair in love and war, I would do anything for love.

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"love and war, in heaven and in hell,
You get what you deserve-- you'd better spend it well.
All is fair in love and war-- and love,
A civil war like this, it always sells itself." - Rilo Kiley

All is fair in love and war... Or is it?

i think love is war and war is caused by love but they are not fair.

I agree with that statement.If I was in a war I would steal out love from all the women I captured since we one. Victory gets the spoils and that includes all the women.

I hold little respect for those who use the lowest means possible to belittle the other adversary.

Yeah, everything is fair in love and war, I would do anything for love.

"love and war, in heaven and in hell,You get what you deserve-- you'd better spend it well.All is fair in love and war-- and love,A civil war like this, it always sells itself." - Rilo Kiley

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I agree with that statement.
If I was in a war I would steal out love from all the women I captured since we one. Victory gets the spoils and that includes all the women.

"love and war, in heaven and in hell,
You get what you deserve-- you'd better spend it well.
All is fair in love and war-- and love,
A civil war like this, it always sells itself." - Rilo Kiley