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If you were dying in your lovers arms, what would you tell them?

My Great Grandpa is 93 years old, and he has been having strokes and been not too well for the past couple of months, and We went to see him last night and his wife, was just holding his head. All I could think was, what does he want to say right now to her? But now I am very curious to see what people would think up.

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Thanks for everything.

Do it now . The important thing is that you.. say what you need to say to him. do it ! Or you will regret for the rest of your life. Been there, Wish you well.

you need a mint

"I wouldn't want to go any other way."

Don't be afraid, I'm not afraid. Thank you for everything. Thank you! I love you.

"Take the cookies out of the oven, I don't want them to burn."

Everything would already be known, so nothing would need to be said. Just a look.

I do not wait to tell my loved ones anything..so if it be like your question --->...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCiKxjZTa2I

I think I am quite at peace with my physical death. The "going" is not a concern. (The "how"? Can't say 'till I actually get there!). So from that point of peace, I think I would cherish hearing my loved ones assert that THEY were going to be alright: that certainly they would grieve, but that they would grieve well and walk out the other side of grief as a whole and not a fractured person.
At 93, would I be right in guessing that he is mostly at peace with his own passing?

Now if someone were not at peace with their passing, I think I would instead do whatever I could to help them prepare and be at peace. Personally I believe that one's mindset at the moment of death has very much to do with any afterlife that might come. I think that is why so many faiths have an underlying theme of glorious unity and participation in something greater than just self.

Well said by Novelist below about not wasting a single opportunity to let your loved ones know how you feel. A LOT of anguish seems to come in grief . . . over things one waited too long to say and now it's too late.

I've been present at the deaths of two family members and I can say that if you have anything important to say to them you should say it long before that moment. In the case of my relatives they were ostensibly not cognizant of what was going on around them. What those experiences have taught me is not to waste a single opportunity to tell the ones you love the important things while you know they can still hear and understand you because you may be afforded a second chance.

I guess I won't know until that moment... but

"I love you. I am honored to have gotten to spend time with you." I'd recount some of my favorite moments.

I don't know... I'm not looking forward to it.

fishdank

If you were dying in your lovers arms, what would you tell them?