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How Much Should You Judge Others?

Between the extremes of blind-eye ambivalence and totally unchecked persecution is a swath of spectrum where we all live, choosing when, where, and why to cast our judgement on others. Letting everyone do and say and be as they please is surely naive, but so too do we wince at Orwellian attempts to enforce prescribed behavior. Should we say what we think is wrong about other people? Of course we should. Should we do it all the time? Hmmmmm.

How much should we judge others? Describe how you judge in one word.

My word? Incessantly.

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We agree that JUDGING is the present act of forming an opinion or conclusion about someone's behavior and/or character. Therefore, judging should be done ONLY when you are in a fabulous, gracious mood.

prudently

Never

Fairly.

Delicately.

Empathetically

Carefully

retroactively

Read this profile once where someone said that perception is a series of judgements. You can't avoid judging/being judged, I think it's how you use it.

There is a difference between judging, and having an opinion. I believe that when having an opinion crosses over to judging, you get problems. We have no idea the back story that has created other's choices and views, and we have no right to insert ourselves into their lives and pass judgment without that information. Opinions create opportunities for dialog and expanding ones personal views, judgement causes us to be closed minded, alone, and prohibits opportunities for us to expand our own views.

Judge honestly. I try to not set double standards and to accept others' judgment.

Judge Knowingly.

Judge consciously. Be aware that you are judging and judge smart.

objectively

Judge as much as you can, it is a muscle. Good judgement will get you far.

That said, be extremely cautious as to how you act on those judgments.

Condescending.
Only in recent years have I realized that my judgement may not always be the best judgement.

Never. Nobody know how to be "you", but YOU.

Judge silently. Lead by example.

Can't do it in one word.... But I try to judge the actions not the person. And when I do teeter to judging the person, I also try to put myself in their shoes, you know, walk a mile in the other guy's life experience to better understand how they arrived at their place.

Vice makes a good point, we all do judge, we go though life making these wee snap judgements, it's how our brains work.

Regretfully. We all do it -- like it or not, intentional or not, good, bad, or indifferent, we all judge, even if for a fleeting second. I think I am better off recognizing that this happens and then being able to consciously recognize and (hopefully) make efforts to confirm that thought process rather than letting it blindly happen. Thus, it seems I, and I would argue most everyone else, have a natural instinct to judge. I then regret it, and make sure that most times, I take the efforts to confirm or deny that first impression before I act on it.

Judging others is not our jobs as humans. We often get too comfortable with sharing our opinions not realizing how it affects other people.
In a sense it's a bit confusing considering that we have a system that punishes criminals according to their crime, which is not right either, but as of now that's just how things work around here.
I personally don't judge people for the simple fact that it's not my job & I wouldn't want anyone to judge me.

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We agree that JUDGING is the present act of forming an opinion or conclusion about someone's behavior and/or character. Therefore, judging should be done ONLY when you are in a fabulous, gracious mood.