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Sure, but only if she got all of her shots.
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Sure, but only if she got all of her shots.
Your spouse can screw around just as easy down the street as they can in Africa.
Remember, they are leaving you alone for a month too. Isn't that a gesture of trust as well?
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depends. if he's planning a vacation with someone other than me...well, we need to talk. however, if he were going on some kind of business trip or charity group then I doubt I would have a problem
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depends. if he's planning a vacation with someone other than me...well, we need to talk. however, if he were going on some kind of business trip or charity group then I doubt I would have a problem
I trust my husband and he trusts me. there is nothing he could do in Africa that he can't do right here.
If he's gonna cheat in Africa..seems like a lot of money to spend. so, I personnally figure my husband is going for some other purpose. like to see the sites. maybe that's just me.
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I don't know on whose behalf you're posing this question (I'm guessing your parents), but the situation as you've presented it here does not sound prudent.
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I don't know on whose behalf you're posing this question (I'm guessing your parents), but the situation as you've presented it here does not sound prudent.
Are these two going to be part of a larger group? Does the spouse left behind have some sort of physical limitations that prevent him/her from going? What's the motivation for wanting to go?
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Sounds like your husband couldnt wait for you to be able to go with him? Is that it? Thats just not very nice or loving. Maybe there was no other way and this was the chance of a lifetime?
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Sounds like your husband couldnt wait for you to be able to go with him? Is that it? Thats just not very nice or loving. Maybe there was no other way and this was the chance of a lifetime?
You might want to look at this as a test. Because if your husband is going to grow close to this woman, then it seems to me he wasnt committed to you from the getgo.What I am trying to say is that then there will be an "Africa" at every corner.
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You are obviously afraid something negative will happen will happen, but what? ...are you afraid he will cheat, or you will be lonely and cheat on him?...maybe that once he's gone to Africa and had a good time he won't want to go again in the future with you?...I don't really get what the fear is? Do you have a good relationship? if so, than there is nothing to worry about...instead be excited for him.
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With the situation exactly as you describe in your question and your responses below, no I wouldn't be comfortable with that. However, I also don't know why he chose to go right now, with this particular person, without you. But I would definitely be asking him more about it. I mean if he's going for business, paid or not, I wouldn't worry too much. I would also find out more about his travel companion. Try to quell your jealousy or irritations before he goes. Otherwise unintended behavior may sprout out of spite.
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If I had a spouse I would like to think that I would be OK with it. Which of course would be a function of the kind of trusting loving relationship I would crave with a spouse.
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If I had a spouse I would like to think that I would be OK with it. Which of course would be a function of the kind of trusting loving relationship I would crave with a spouse.
(But that might change if I knew the man she was going with had a reputation as a d**k-head! It would become much more an exercise of trust in her!)
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I would feel comfortable with it to an extent. I wouldn't like being separated from my husband for a month; it has nothing to do with him travelling with someone of the opposite sex. It sounds more like your problem is that you want to go and you feel he's leaving you behind. That has nothing to do with his travel companion and everything to do with your relationship with your husband.
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I wouldn't feel particularly good about my spouse going without me -
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I wouldn't feel particularly good about my spouse going without me -
but when we were newly engaged I went to Ghana with a member of the opposite sex for 2 weeks.
Does that make me a hypocrite?
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You don't seem to feel comfortable about this. You should reach some understanding of the situation before spouse goes so that you will not fret while spouse is away.
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So long as I knew they wouldn't cheat, why not? But it also would depend on their reasons. Business, charity, etc.
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