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Turning on some rock music and dancing around the house makes me feel better, too.
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I go to Paneras with a good book, buy a coffee and cinnamon roll, and enjoy reading my book whilst surrounded by others doing their thing, too (students doing homework on their laptops, etc.) I don't feel lonely in that environment.
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I tend to enjoy pet rats. They are simple, cheap, and can become like a little dog if you play with them often. However, I now have a cat as well. Music helps me too. Honestly, another thing I do is get on one of those free online dating sites just to chat with people. I actually gathered a friend from the last time I did it. We dont hang out or anything, have once, but otherwise we just text. And yes, soulpancake as well. I dont think Im on it often enough to really feel like a part of the 'community' or anything, but I still enjoy going on it to feel better, or to ask questions about my current situation.
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I rarely feel lonely, especially so lonely that I need to cope with it. I tell all my friends to have adventures (of many kinds) while they are young so that they will have interesting memories to think about when your oldder. I am never saying (about anything) that I have the magic formula for anything; I have, however, experiences and processed quite a bit of stuff through out the years and I like to fool myself into pretending that the stuff can be useful to somebody else.
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I write. I have the opportunity to be lonely a lot of the time, so I write or come on SP and hang with my SPeeps!
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I know this might sound tacky, and I apologize up front if it comes across that way, 'cause I don't mean it to.
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I know this might sound tacky, and I apologize up front if it comes across that way, 'cause I don't mean it to.
a good friend told me one time that "depression is a long name for self-pity. okay to wallow in in once in a while, but not a good lifestyle".
and I do allow my self a little time to feel sorry for myself (I maintain that I should, 'cause no one else will do an adequate job of it), but then, after awhile, well, I'm pretty bored with me. I look around and can see people who are much, much "worse off" than I. I get outta my head. when I am thinking to myself about all the things I /don't/ have, I have to look around and see the things I /do/ have. I have a roof over my head, food in my belly, and people who love me. It may not be "much" , but It's a damn sight more than many people have.
find something that interests you. could be joining some kinda club, reading a book, knitting or bike riding. something that gets you outside your own misery. stop fousing on the negative..accentuate the positive.
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For me, what happen lately is that i felt lonely when i am alone. i had someone on my mind all the time. it is so funny that i don't think much about myself and i felt lonely. i hope it goes away one day when i see and figure out how to really forget one out of my head. i am trying now.
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For me, what happen lately is that i felt lonely when i am alone. i had someone on my mind all the time. it is so funny that i don't think much about myself and i felt lonely. i hope it goes away one day when i see and figure out how to really forget one out of my head. i am trying now.
what is always good to do when u are depress for me is talking to someone, anyone about anything that will mar your mind from what is currently upto it. Hope it helps!
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It has helped me in the past to watch movies or TV or read a fiction book - connecting with the character(s) lessens your personal loneliness oftentimes. Also the internet is good for some social interaction if you don't have many available real-life friends to talk with. Sometimes just going out into the world, even just to shop for what you need, or to grab a cup of coffee somewhere, can help. Other times this sort of backfires if you feel *too* disconnected, though.
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It has helped me in the past to watch movies or TV or read a fiction book - connecting with the character(s) lessens your personal loneliness oftentimes. Also the internet is good for some social interaction if you don't have many available real-life friends to talk with. Sometimes just going out into the world, even just to shop for what you need, or to grab a cup of coffee somewhere, can help. Other times this sort of backfires if you feel *too* disconnected, though.
Sometimes there's this little 'alienation switch' that can go off and no matter what you do or who you are with you'll feel 'alone in a crowd.' If this is your situation, what I have found best for it is to do something helpful for another person. It gets your mind out of the 'poor me' zone and focuses your efforts on helping and also plays a little trick on your brain where you feel more connected to the person you just helped. Ben Franklin used this great strategy himself, though backwards. He asked a political opponent if he could borrow a book - and what do ya know, the opponent felt a lot more amiable and kind towards the person he just helped out! Use this backwards to feel reconnected with your fellow humans. :)
I wish you the best and I totally know how it feels.
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You will probably hate this but I did it myself and believe it or not it actually helped me incredibly.
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You will probably hate this but I did it myself and believe it or not it actually helped me incredibly.
Ok. find someone who is worse off than yourself. I knew of a woman in our street who had recently lost her husband. I did not know her myself. On the advice of a counselor I steeled myself to visit her. It was late afternoon and she was still in her pajamas. When I said I was just saying hello (truly I had no idea what to say) she invited me in and we talked. She was so grateful that I had called in and I totally felt humbled by how much my visit meant to her. I left without that awful black cloud following me and she was actually smiling. Not easy but I am sure you will think of someone worse off than yourself in your neighborhood.
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I work as a field geologsit for a living. This gives great opportunity for feeling out of touch with everything and everyone. There seem to be two options, either make friends with those around you somehow or become a workaholic, and eventually people will wonder what you're doing and force you to be social. I think my point is, doing something helps in getting through such funks.
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Whatever you do, DON'T listen to depressing music. Listen to happy tunes and try to make a mental list (or you can write one out too) of all the things in life that make you happy. Whether it be family, The Strokes, writing, or daisies. Then try to surround yourself with that thing as much as possible. If you can't, think of something you can do to be productive with your time. It helps you forget your troubles and feeling productive will also make you feel accomplished, useful, and therefore happy!
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I think of things to do. Most times I don't do them, but I thought of them --- that's a start.
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