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Learn to love yourself and want the best for you. Then, you will be ready to love someone else. You cannot accommodate the needs of another until you understand your own needs and desires.
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First one needs a good working definition of what love truly is.
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First one needs a good working definition of what love truly is.
Emotion? Feeling? Mindset? Choice? Process? Commitment to another? A "giving" or a "taking"? A "servicing" or a "being serviced"? A contract? An obligation? A spiritual paradigm freely engaged? A "me"; or an "us"? An "acceptance of what is" or a "requirement to change to what I want"?
Then once one has a (hopefully!) good definition, try applying it first to yourself and gain a footing of acceptance and peace and joy within yourself. (If this doesn't happen, go back, repeat). Then, if successful, reach it out to all others in the Human race. (Including that person who just cut you off! And if it doesn't happen, go back repeat the previous steps)
Then if successful in this, reach out to just one special person with which you will work through a lifetime to become the combined living embodiment of this eternal condition; then others might see it and crave the same and we are one step closer setting aside war and strife for love and peace!
It's perhaps as "simple" as that!
(But be wary of skipping steps, thinking that it is others' obligation to first show you love and give into you what you fear you are lacking within yourself. That's more enabling oneself NOT to grow into love but to be controlled and reliant and even "addicted" -- enslaved to others to constantly feeding you the love that is still a foreign concept within your own heart. True love is shared: not "taken", "bartered", or "sold".)
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