SoulPancake / Conversations / How do you cope with letting your questions go unanswered for life to solve?

Jump into a Conversation about Life's' Big Questions

lovepaperdoll

- 4 months ago

Feature
0
Like
Follow

How do you cope with letting your questions go unanswered for life to solve?

I've had way too many big life decision questions on my mind lately and my desire for answers is stressful. I'm only 20, I shouldn't be so worried about choosing the right career, the right guy to be with, where I will be when I graduate, what I am going to do with my art, what I'm doing with my life. I can't possibly have answers to these questions until I live more. Yet I have such pressure from school and parents to deliver an answer, and even from myself because I am uneasy not knowing the answer to my direction.
Sometimes I am so impatient.

Recent Discussed Liked

First level responses second level responses

You will still be asking similar questions as you get older. Most answers will arrive as you go along so don't sweat too much over all of them at the same time. My daughter tosses a coin and if she doesn't like the answer changes her mind. I panic. And end up wasting a lot of time trying to make the "right decisions.
Lately I have begun to realize that there aren't really any "wrong" decisions

I'm 22, and I have no clue. It's never easy and you don't need to know yet. You just need to not give up.

I don't think anybody has the answers to those questions, maybe even at age 60.

the thing is, I think...is you should control life...not the other way around. you'll be happier for it.

20yo? Things will come to you, just keep your eyes and ears open to hints and opportunities.

What was I doing at 20yo? Searching for all the answers? yep!

You need to resist the pressure if you're not ready.

Some people know what they want to do from an early age and others never find out at all. It's your life and you need to live it in a way that is authentic to you and what you want. If you don't yet know what that is then you're right - you need some time to explore first. (And you need to stop pushing yourself for answers too, as that will only create more stress in your life.) Take some time to smell the proverbial roses.

Answers will come, paths will present themselves - as long as you are always look for opportunities and always work towards where you want to go. In good time, the big picture will take shape. Good luck! :-)

You don't find them, they find you. Choose a career. If it is not the right choice, another career will cross your path and you can change over to it. The right guy will find you. You do not have to search for him.
Life happens. You won't be able to see what you have done with your life until you have lived it.

Patience is the key.

(At the clock) Who says life has to fit in that criteria? It doesn't.

You have the answer...."I can't possibly have answers to these questions until I live more. "
Very cool pic, BTW. My best to you. Don't give up and always believe and you'll do just fine.

Try remembering that one cannot live in the past . . . because it's already past. And one cannot live in the future because it's not yet here! Now is the only moment in time you've been given to live.

Living in your yesterday only steals away your tomorrows. Yesterday is only there so we can learn from it and then peacefully put it to bed in our personal History book. It's NOT there to be baggage we have to carry everywhere. The book sits there on the shelf ready for instant reference -- but one doesn't have to carry it around.

Trying to live in tomorrow is just a fool's errand: made apparent every time something unexpected happens and forces you to change your plans. Plan for tomorrow as if it COULD happen the way you've foreseen. But unless you're a card-carrying Prophet or time traveler, don't try live there (or fret about what living there will be like!).

Chances are that someone (parents, school, friends) have instilled this pressure on you because at some level they resented your not being as uptight about things as they feel obliged to be! Take three deep breaths then go out and do something totally unplanned and in the moment to remind yourself that now is the only moment you can truly be alive in.

@lovepaperdoll

Follow Message

More Conversations from lovepaperdoll

How do you persevere through a creative rut? 5 Responses How do you keep yourself motivated? 8 Responses What drives you to create? 8 Responses Do you find your personality type limiting or embrace it? 22 Responses Authenticity: When are you most Authentic? 9 Responses

Show More ↓

SoulPancake

lovepaperdoll

How do you cope with letting your questions go unanswered for life to solve?

learner

OneEyedSquirrel

I'm 22, and I have no clue. It's never easy and you don't need to know yet. You just need to not give up.

melb2

I don't think anybody has the answers to those questions, maybe even at age 60.

the thing is, I think...is you should control life...not the other way around. you'll be happier for it.

RosieFullyRiveted

20yo? Things will come to you, just keep your eyes and ears open to hints and opportunities.

What was I doing at 20yo? Searching for all the answers? yep!

burnabymike

stinkyhenry

robitie_recall

(At the clock) Who says life has to fit in that criteria? It doesn't.

Novelist65

You have the answer...."I can't possibly have answers to these questions until I live more. "
Very cool pic, BTW. My best to you. Don't give up and always believe and you'll do just fine.

Griz

How do you cope with letting your questions go unanswered for life to solve?

I'm 22, and I have no clue. It's never easy and you don't need to know yet. You just need to not give up.

I don't think anybody has the answers to those questions, maybe even at age 60. the thing is, I think...is you should control life...not the other way around. you'll be happier for it.

20yo? Things will come to you, just keep your eyes and ears open to hints and opportunities.What was I doing at 20yo? Searching for all the answers? yep!

(At the clock) Who says life has to fit in that criteria? It doesn't.

You have the answer...."I can't possibly have answers to these questions until I live more. "Very cool pic, BTW. My best to you. Don't give up and always believe and you'll do just fine.

What's Next?

I don't think anybody has the answers to those questions, maybe even at age 60.

the thing is, I think...is you should control life...not the other way around. you'll be happier for it.

20yo? Things will come to you, just keep your eyes and ears open to hints and opportunities.

What was I doing at 20yo? Searching for all the answers? yep!

You have the answer...."I can't possibly have answers to these questions until I live more. "
Very cool pic, BTW. My best to you. Don't give up and always believe and you'll do just fine.