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Is there such thing as an abusive friendship?

In abusive romantic relationships, the abused party is always encouraged to step away and never talk to the other person again, because in romantic relationships there is the perceived connection between the two people. But are there ever any instances where a friendship can be abusive?

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Yes, I think some friendship can be unhealthy just like a parent/child, romantic, student/teacher, boss/employee, coworker to coworker. You'll always find an abusive person in those mixes, even friendships.

yes, even in a loving friendship where no one is mean per se. tho when i find myself in one i have to look at how i am allowing the abuse to occur and expose it, it is easier to do when they are truly a friend

sure.

and when you have those serial relationships that are abusive...its way past time to look in the mirror.

when you are in an abusive relationship, by not acting on it, you are essentially giving tacit approval for the abuse to continue. you have to ask yourself why, what are /you/ getting out of it?

Of course. It's the fake one who pretends to like you when it's the two of you but cuts you up, laughs at you, and rips you apart behind your back. If brought to their attention, they deny doing so or blame the friend they're abusing for 'being annoying that one time.' Then they try to laugh it off and offer friendship again. That cycle repeats.

abso-f*****g-lutely. and i believe the same rules apply.

Why would you think not?

Oh yeah. I have several friends that come to me and vent. They come to me with all of their problems, asking for advice or just someone to listen. I support them and go to great lengths to make it clear that I care about them and want to hear about their issues blah blah blah and then the SECOND I need someone to talk to, they simply cannot be found. They don’t even invite me to their parties or think to include me on outings… I’m just the person that’s there when they need me.

I mean, sometimes I really wonder why I put any effort at all in these users… I know they’re using me and not going to be there for me even while I’m sitting up until odd hours of the morning, listening to their problems and offering support. I’ve actually given up on getting support in return from them… so you’d think I’d no longer make any effort… but I guess the reason I still do has very little to do with me.

Dating back to grade school...it seems like I've ALWAYS had at least one abusive friend or one waiting in the wings. Normally there's a dozen red flags (hmmm...like maybe NOONE else in my circle wants anything to do with them), but they tend to latch on to me and then rawdog the crap out of my self-esteem until I finally get fed up (or get a restraining order)...and then it's on to the next one. I can have 5 GREAT friends who love me for me...and then always have the one to who is possessive and territorial...who lies about me and to me...who sends me soul-shattering emails...who stalks me and hounds me and blows up my phone with incessant text messages. One of these days...when I'm "in between" abusive friends...I'll take the time to analyze it and figure out why I always have the one sicko hanging around me...stinkin' up the air I'm trying to breathe.

Any relationship can be abusive.

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Any relationship can be abusive.

Is there such thing as an abusive friendship?

Yes, I think some friendship can be unhealthy just like a parent/child, romantic, student/teacher, boss/employee, coworker to coworker. You'll always find an abusive person in those mixes, even friendships.

yes, even in a loving friendship where no one is mean per se. tho when i find myself in one i have to look at how i am allowing the abuse to occur and expose it, it is easier to do when they are truly a friend

abso-f*****g-lutely. and i believe the same rules apply.

Why would you think not?

Any relationship can be abusive.

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