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Yes, it's always a good idea to keep up-to-date on what we want out of life. I'm unmarried and 33, and I'm constantly thinking about my goals... not only for the future but for today. Goals and dreams are everything; if we don't have them, all the joy is sucked out of life. Don't be afraid to reevaluate what is important to you.
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Yes, it's always a good idea to keep up-to-date on what we want out of life. I'm unmarried and 33, and I'm constantly thinking about my goals... not only for the future but for today. Goals and dreams are everything; if we don't have them, all the joy is sucked out of life. Don't be afraid to reevaluate what is important to you.
Btw, I think it's GREAT that you dream big, it's just important to be realistic, as well. :)
Oh, and it's awesome that you're a cancer survivor!! :) My dad has brain cancer and is getting worse instead of better. I'm learning to appreciate every moment I have with him, despite our differences.
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what @flashbanding said.
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what @flashbanding said.
IDK that "whittling down dreams" is /exactly/ what I'd call it. Over the years, I think I've pretty much accomplished what I set out to do. and, you are right, I've created some new ones. maybe its more a matter of changing priorities, and some things (like being an astronaut or a ballerina) are just, at my age unrealistic.Besides, I think when one wants to accomplish a dream, really, one has to work at it. and if I /really/ wanted to be a ballerina, I should've taken up dancing a long time ago.
I've always thought you can pretty much do what you want to do if you're willing to work at it.
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to set about whittling them down sounds like an act of vandalism...
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to set about whittling them down sounds like an act of vandalism...
to admit they are out of reach once they are genuinely out of reach is a more natural letting go process.
I know plenty of cancer survivors - and quite few who did not "survive" - one of whom got to scuba dive the red sea and fly in a hot air balloon over the slopes of Kilimanjaro - AFTER a terminal diagnosis...
obviously at 45 your dreams of becoming a pop star or ballerina might be a tad unrealistic...
I had to let go of a few like that -
however - learning to dance and fly a plane came after the age of 50....
carry on dreaming big , I'd say
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As humans, we develop predictions based on past happenings; so, the older we get, the more things we see fail miserably. We have smaller dreams because we wish to actually accomplish those dreams.
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As humans, we develop predictions based on past happenings; so, the older we get, the more things we see fail miserably. We have smaller dreams because we wish to actually accomplish those dreams.
The kid who dreamed of being the president did not whittle his dream down, he just learned what a sh*t job he would then have, and what that job actually means. Our dreams as kids were big, but they were superfluous. Our dreams now (at least, my own) are infinitely smaller but that much more meaningful and precise.
My dream of being a dinosaur was dreaming for the status (?) of dinosaur, my dream of owning a coffee shop and writing a book are dreams of content. Now, I still want to be a dinosaur, but only because dinosaurs are awesome, not because I am specifically excited about what I would then be doing as a dinosaur.
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I don't think its necessary to "whittle down". Things shift and change in life. I grade how big a dream is on the gravity of its meaning to me. I have a very big dream of going to Ohio which is heavy to me because it was the rubber tire manufacturing capitol of the world. Some people want to be astronauts or the president or make big money or travel to exotic places or have children that do great things. Those are small scale, for moi, because they don't mean too much to my heart of hearts.
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I don't think its necessary to "whittle down". Things shift and change in life. I grade how big a dream is on the gravity of its meaning to me. I have a very big dream of going to Ohio which is heavy to me because it was the rubber tire manufacturing capitol of the world. Some people want to be astronauts or the president or make big money or travel to exotic places or have children that do great things. Those are small scale, for moi, because they don't mean too much to my heart of hearts.
Once you get one of your dreams (or don't) then things look different and you start to take into account how much time you have to do them but this also changes the nature of how important the dream really is to the you living here and now. Heh, maybe I'll be more bitter once I reach 45 though. What are your dreams?
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congratulations, by the way, (if that's the appropriate word) on being a survivor. my mom is too!
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i hate it when people say this. if it is at all possible to do something that you want, then you have to do it. it's never too late.
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Depends on what your dreams are and how many of them you have. There is a certain point when you have to skew to the slightly more realistic and perhaps prioritize the conflicting ones but so long as they're obtainable and you're willing to work for them I don't see any reason not to chase them.
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