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here's the deal: if he's in his own apartment, in his own home, what right do you have to tell him what he can or cannot do? Most apartments, and cities have noise regulations, but, frankly, there are limits to how much anyone can invade another s privacy. If /all/ your neighbors were complaining, or if the building were a "non-smoking" facility, you might have a valid complaint. It is an unfortunate fact of life that the world does not always run to suit us, and we can't put everyone in jail or take legal action because they irritate us.
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here's the deal: if he's in his own apartment, in his own home, what right do you have to tell him what he can or cannot do? Most apartments, and cities have noise regulations, but, frankly, there are limits to how much anyone can invade another s privacy. If /all/ your neighbors were complaining, or if the building were a "non-smoking" facility, you might have a valid complaint. It is an unfortunate fact of life that the world does not always run to suit us, and we can't put everyone in jail or take legal action because they irritate us.
I've lived in apartments where the air was permeated with unpleasant cooking smells. so should I have told those people not to eat?
What would I do in this situation? If it bothers me so much, I would close my windows.
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It totally depends on your local municipal laws. Where I live smokers need to go "x" metres away from a 'no smoking' structure to light up.
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It totally depends on your local municipal laws. Where I live smokers need to go "x" metres away from a 'no smoking' structure to light up.
Were it me, I would lean towards tact.
Check your local laws and regulations and then I would prefer a face-to-face, neighbourly, friendly exchange, but let them know their habit is affecting more than just them and you are going to pursue your right to breathe fresh air in your own home. "Neutral ground" is preferrable to on their 'home turf'. (Remember how your defenses activated when you perceived something you didn't approve coming onto your home turf!) If possible, try to arrange to run into them in the lobby at mail time, or in the parking lot.
If that doesn't work and you have the rules on your side, hand it over to the appartment manager. Let it become their problem. And if that doesn't work then get the municipality involved.
Smokers habitually take exception to anyone trying to dictate where they can and cannot get their fixes. But you never know whether this fellow is really just a good-hearted kind of bloke who, with deadened sense of smell, doesn't realized just how obnoxious their fumes are. He may apologize, take it farther away from the building, and you gain a friend.
And smokers, the smell really does carry! The other day while on the freeway going 100 clicks someone lit up in the car dozens of metres in front of me and it could be smelled in my vehicle just a second or two later! That' stuff's obnoxious even in small doses.
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Ask your apartment manager to address the issue with him.. the mgr can indicate that he/she has received numerous complaints regarding the excessive smoke. Maybe they can designate a smoke-free area. Check with your city/county/state's landlord/tenant laws to see if your rights are being violated.
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Pretty sure there's nothing you can do about smoke drifting out of his place and into yours.. I think you're limited to an anonymous polite note asking him not to smoke in whatever spot is causing the problem, and if that doesn't work, then don't have your windows open when he's smoking. Unless there's a no smoking rule for the whole complex, then his freedom to smoke there is protected.
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similar to below - but you need to explain the effect it is having - and see if he can't smoke somewhere else where the smoke doesn't rise up to your windows...
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