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How do I get over feelings of rejection?

I used to come on SP all of the time, but I haven't been here since the update, so forgive me if I'm old school.. Anyway, this topic has to do with rejection. The problem started today when my friend said to come by his house anytime, and I couldn't call him because he has no phone at the moment. I wanted to go see him, but I started to feel very anxious. What if when I got there he said, "now isn't a good time?" To me, that means "go away, we don't want you right now." Being turned away would crush me. How can I get over my fear of rejection?

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And to let you guys know, I did end up going over there.. but... it was only after he had access to a phone and called me... :/ Not very brave of me.

Far better to take the chance and let the chips fall where they may, than to sit at hope and twiddle your thumbs and wonder at the possibilities.
Get you're arse over there and let us know what happens! :)

It depends upon the person and perhaps it is an american thing- but over here in Europe where I live, nobody- and I mean NOBODY -gives out an invitation like that. Too wishy washy. Some people like it when one drops in unannounced. Personally- I think it is kind of s Sy cop out to say "Come over any time" when basically I have no idea when he is even at home or what he is doing. I wouldnt even accept an "invitation" like that. And it isnt fear of rejection- it`s that I wouldnt want to waste my time going over there not knowing if he is even at home. The solution for me is to have other friends and to be too busy to take somebody up on a Sy "invitation" like that.
Just my opinion.

If you're not out there taking chances, you have no opportunity to be rejected. Rejection is an opportunity. You have to go thru a few rejections to get to the good stuff. Or, you can just sit at home and watch TV; no rejection there.

Eat lots of chocolate ice cream, and hang out with "real" friends. Let go of what you don't have.

I think the more rejection you get the beter, it makes you embrace it more and makes it easier to get over the next time... thats what i teach in wingman 101 ha

So you go to his house, knock on the door, and say "sorry i couldn't call ahead. Is this a good time to visit?" Sometimes the time is not right, and it has nothing to do with you. Maybe he has the flu, maybe he has a death in his family, maybe he just simply has to be somewhere else. why should that mean /you/ specifically???

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Light1000

How do I get over feelings of rejection?

Light1000

And to let you guys know, I did end up going over there.. but... it was only after he had access to a phone and called me... :/ Not very brave of me.

Wildsolitude

Far better to take the chance and let the chips fall where they may, than to sit at hope and twiddle your thumbs and wonder at the possibilities.
Get you're arse over there and let us know what happens! :)

chantarella

spirithealer

If you're not out there taking chances, you have no opportunity to be rejected. Rejection is an opportunity. You have to go thru a few rejections to get to the good stuff. Or, you can just sit at home and watch TV; no rejection there.

loudinrich

Eat lots of chocolate ice cream, and hang out with "real" friends. Let go of what you don't have.

Duffy

I think the more rejection you get the beter, it makes you embrace it more and makes it easier to get over the next time... thats what i teach in wingman 101 ha

melb2

How do I get over feelings of rejection?

And to let you guys know, I did end up going over there.. but... it was only after he had access to a phone and called me... :/ Not very brave of me.

Far better to take the chance and let the chips fall where they may, than to sit at hope and twiddle your thumbs and wonder at the possibilities.Get you're arse over there and let us know what happens! :)

If you're not out there taking chances, you have no opportunity to be rejected. Rejection is an opportunity. You have to go thru a few rejections to get to the good stuff. Or, you can just sit at home and watch TV; no rejection there.

Eat lots of chocolate ice cream, and hang out with "real" friends. Let go of what you don't have.

I think the more rejection you get the beter, it makes you embrace it more and makes it easier to get over the next time... thats what i teach in wingman 101 ha

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Far better to take the chance and let the chips fall where they may, than to sit at hope and twiddle your thumbs and wonder at the possibilities.
Get you're arse over there and let us know what happens! :)