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I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs...

When my husband and I got married I didn't take his last name. In the early 1800's once you were married you would lose your legal identity, as you gave up your "maiden" name. By doing so your civil identity would vanish, you would no longer be able to own property, including any wages you earned. You couldn't sue or enter into contracts either. Single women had more legal rights but society scorned unattached women.
As a man or a woman do you feel that once you are married the woman should change their name?

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I will absolutely take my husband's name. No one can expect me to choose to keep Johnson forever. Not happening.

I think it's great that we can choose, but I feel that the changing of the name provides more unity. It shows the meshing of two into one, which I find an awesome element of marriage.

I'm getting married in March and I'll be assuming my husband's name. I like the tradition of it and quite frankly, I can't wait to get rid of my last name. My last name is what I call a gajumble of letters, thrown together like some kind of code that no one but my immediate family can understand. My new last name is a lot simpler. And the hyphenated thing...oh wow, that would just be a nightmare!

I'm glad that women can make the choice about this and I don't think anyone should be forced. I'm also glad that I can simply assume his name and don't have to go through the trouble of a legal name change.

it's an option, so it doesn't have to be excercised. I guess both parties could take a completely different name if they wanted to. Hyphens are of the devil.

My wife wanted my name, but I'd have taken hers if she wanted.

In Iceland we don't have family names so it's not a problem.

This really shocked me! In Switzerland in bygone days- brides had all their teeth pulled out so that their husband would never have to foot any dentist bills!
Shocking!!!

My mother didn't change her last name and neither did I. The weird thing is, my mother's mother sends mail to me using my husband's last name. I don't think women should have to give up their names. If my husband had a cool name I think I would have changed mine, but he doesn't, so I didn't. I mean, if I could have become Julia Bonecrusher or Julia SoulPancake or something, how could I not? But seriously, no. I don't think it's necessary. Is he marking his territory? Remember in grade school how people would ask "does it have your name on it?" when you claimed ownership? Is it something like that? "That's not your wife." "IS SO! I put my name on her!" A friend of mine had trouble with the name change after she got married. Suddenly hubby changed his mind. She felt weird about how he repeatedly claimed that she was now a part of HIS family. "But you're a Wilson now." It was if she was either their property or that her family and childhood no longer mattered to who she was as a person.

I took his because we were going to be living where his family was (he was second generation on both sides); when we divorced I kept his as long as I stayed in Florida where the kids were. When I moved out west, I took my maiden name back. Good thing I did, because Oregon now defends against terrorists by demanding that women present their original marriage license to prove the name-change, along with their birth certificate. Both the certificate and the license are causing major problems for people who were born at home and have no certificate, women who cannot find a license (only have the fancy one the minister and witnesses signed - not good enough).

Both parties should pick a new last name to share.

It's up to whoever's getting married. I took my husband's last name but part of that has to do with family BS on my side and his last name being easier to pronounce. Either way it's a person's choice... man or woman. Men can take their wives names now just as woman can take their husband's. Woman can enter into contracts, own property, and keep their paycheck so I don't see what the issue with last names is.

i personally would take the guys name, partly because i hate my last name, its soooo common. or i might hyphenate it.

correction: You knew ME before I was married...

I didn't the first marriage he took my name which I thought was romantic until I realized that it made a great alias.

I hate getting the Mr and Mrs letters that completely obliterate me as a human, I would rather get "and wife" than his entire name.

I agree that it is the womans choice. There is no logical reason why a woman should be forced to change her name after marriage. It should be completely her choice.

lol @ the verve.....that's friggin' sweet....

i took the last name.....it's a cool last name.....better than my maiden name....i'd change it back but it just has such a nice flow to it now....

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it's an option, so it doesn't have to be excercised. I guess both parties could take a completely different name if they wanted to. Hyphens are of the devil.

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My wife wanted my name, but I'd have taken hers if she wanted.

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In Iceland we don't have family names so it's not a problem.

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This really shocked me! In Switzerland in bygone days- brides had all their teeth pulled out so that their husband would never have to foot any dentist bills!
Shocking!!!

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correction: You knew ME before I was married...

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I didn't the first marriage he took my name which I thought was romantic until I realized that it made a great alias.

I hate getting the Mr and Mrs letters that completely obliterate me as a human, I would rather get "and wife" than his entire name.

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I agree that it is the womans choice. There is no logical reason why a woman should be forced to change her name after marriage. It should be completely her choice.

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lol @ the verve.....that's friggin' sweet....

i took the last name.....it's a cool last name.....better than my maiden name....i'd change it back but it just has such a nice flow to it now....

I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs...

I will absolutely take my husband's name. No one can expect me to choose to keep Johnson forever. Not happening.

I think it's great that we can choose, but I feel that the changing of the name provides more unity. It shows the meshing of two into one, which I find an awesome element of marriage.

it's an option, so it doesn't have to be excercised. I guess both parties could take a completely different name if they wanted to. Hyphens are of the devil.

My wife wanted my name, but I'd have taken hers if she wanted.

In Iceland we don't have family names so it's not a problem.

This really shocked me! In Switzerland in bygone days- brides had all their teeth pulled out so that their husband would never have to foot any dentist bills!Shocking!!!

Both parties should pick a new last name to share.

i personally would take the guys name, partly because i hate my last name, its soooo common. or i might hyphenate it.

correction: You knew ME before I was married...

I didn't the first marriage he took my name which I thought was romantic until I realized that it made a great alias. I hate getting the Mr and Mrs letters that completely obliterate me as a human, I would rather get "and wife" than his entire name.

I agree that it is the womans choice. There is no logical reason why a woman should be forced to change her name after marriage. It should be completely her choice.

lol @ the verve.....that's friggin' sweet....i took the last name.....it's a cool last name.....better than my maiden name....i'd change it back but it just has such a nice flow to it now....

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This really shocked me! In Switzerland in bygone days- brides had all their teeth pulled out so that their husband would never have to foot any dentist bills!
Shocking!!!

I didn't the first marriage he took my name which I thought was romantic until I realized that it made a great alias.

I hate getting the Mr and Mrs letters that completely obliterate me as a human, I would rather get "and wife" than his entire name.

lol @ the verve.....that's friggin' sweet....

i took the last name.....it's a cool last name.....better than my maiden name....i'd change it back but it just has such a nice flow to it now....