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to have your partner be in love with someone else though....
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to have your partner be in love with someone else though....
well, then i see the point where divorce creeps in
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i do not understand why cheating is the worst thing one can do to a spouse.
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i do not understand why cheating is the worst thing one can do to a spouse.
was it just sex? or was it an emotional affair as well?
i could forgive a fling.
i say all of this with no disrespect towards your situation
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I am sorry he cheated. Unfortunately your marriage was in trouble for quite sometime. I think it's like mourning a death. Although we still haven't filed yet, I imagine that it will be like a death. I am still in mouning and when I sign those papers, my heart will break all over again. I feel like a slow dull ache that never goes away, especially when kids are involved. I was with my ex-husband for 20 years.
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I am sorry he cheated. Unfortunately your marriage was in trouble for quite sometime. I think it's like mourning a death. Although we still haven't filed yet, I imagine that it will be like a death. I am still in mouning and when I sign those papers, my heart will break all over again. I feel like a slow dull ache that never goes away, especially when kids are involved. I was with my ex-husband for 20 years.
This has been the heardest thing I have ever gone through. I have survived giving birth, death, loss of a kidney, cancer, and this was 100 times more painful. We were supposed to grow old together, and we will grow old together, jutst not as a couple. My ex and I have been apart for almost 2 years. Some days I cry like it happened 5 minutes ago. You will go through the ups and downs too.
My heart is with you. If you need support, let me know.
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beloved, this is hard as you already know. one truth is he cheated on himself, made himself less than his word, his love, and his self respect. then offered it to you.... you are not less than. you have your self respect, your love, and your word, but what you dont have is the dream anymore. your whole heart dream of life together wrapped in your shared trust... what you have now maybe a shattered heart, and a changed life... with your word, love, self respect, and truth you can create a different life, now this is not easy at first and i dont type this lightly. it will be awhile before the pieces of trust, and love to come back together to redefine you again. be kind to yourself, be kind to the judgment you pass on this time of your life. remember you can come here and explore the new feelings that will show up in new ways to become a new you,. in support and respect, a me to you...
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Do you have children? Harder if, yes. If no. Let go. Marriage is man-made...or should I even mention...actually, "Man"-made. If a man cheats, why would you continue to love him?? Self-esteem comes to mind...Do you have it? If not? Why not? and can you work on achieving such a worthwhile thing.
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So sorry to hear about this!!! I hate divorce. I am not or have not been divorced, but grow up in a divorced home. That was hard enough, I can't imagine going through one. Is reconciliation totally out of the question?
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Let's put it this way. Take a hammer and hit yourself in the junk until you pass out. The next day, do the same. Do this every day for at least two years. Get the picture?
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1. Divorce is kind of like the flu;people are sorry to hear you have it, but it's really none of their business. don't expect other people to be all that concerned. "Sorry to hear that. What do you think about cheesecake?"
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