reply
- Feature
- Like
@dothedrew yes. the mind is so sublime, that it takes on many forms.
reply
- Feature
- Like
I would NEVER go back to someone who cheated on me. Even If I had all the love in the world for him, i would never give him another chance. Why take a chance on getting hurt again and them cheating again?
reply
- Feature
- Like
I think there are two other components to "true love": respect and trust. The problem with cheating is that it says,IMO, "I do not respect you", and betrays that trust that should be inherant in a relationship, particualrly marriage. I've met several cheaters who swear they "love" thier spouses, yet, there they are, cheating, cheating, cheating. That isn't to say that the relationship can't be repaired after such a devistating blow, but it's going to take a lot of work on both parties parts.As to the question? I pretty much I haven't really seen anybody "fall out of love", but I have seen a great deal of lost trust.
reply
- Feature
- Like
True love endures. Unfaitfulness is a biggie. It poisons a trust relationship with oft-fatal doubt or feelings of "debt". It is the only reason given in the Bible for divorce. (Not making a statement on the Bible for people to debate to death, just saying that even in that paradigm it's seen as an "ultimate biggie".) But just because it is given as just cause for divorce, doesn't mean it has to be so. How much do you love the other person? Enough to overlook their mistakes? Enough to try again? Then go for it! The "divorce clause" is given in the Bible as a last resort escape if the relationship be totally and utterly poisoned by unfaithfulness. If there's still a heartbeat, try to revive it. Just recognize that a process COULD develop where one is never fully trusting the other or where one is feeling terminally indebted to the other for such an act of forgiveness. Both are very unhealthy.
reply
- Feature
- Like
With no more information and not knowing the people- I would not recommend it. You are young, keep it uncomplicated.
reply
- Feature
- Like
I've known some couples who survived a cheating spouse issue. I don't know that i could though.
reply
- Feature
- Like
I believe that once you are in love with someone you will never truly fall out of love with them. No matter how much you want to or try that feeling will always be there. That person will always have a place in your heart no matter how much they have or will hurt you. People may say that their marriage failed because they just fell out of love, but I think that if you're marriage or relationship fails it was because you were never in love with them. And if they cheated that is your excuse to get out of that relationship if you're in love or not. If you're in love you will continuously go back or you'll realize that it isn't right for you but you'll still have those feelings for that person.
reply
- Feature
- Like
I`d say it sounds like you never fell out of love. You were just deeply hurt. Then you tried to make a friendship out of it because that is safer. I mean- in the end - why even be friends with somebody who "betrayed" you? Always depends on the grounds for infidelity. Otherwise couples therapy would never work.
reply
- Feature
- Like
