SoulPancake / Conversations / Why is it so much easier for us as humans to hold on to stuff instead of letting it go??

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@godislove because it was never easy. it's like throwing away an entire part of your life. it's like being sad with material, instead of being sad/happy, depending on whether you decide or not, without material. throwing away is exactly what it says. making something longing, into something useless in an instant.

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Letting go means moving on. Moving on means growing up. Growing up means change. And change scares anyone.

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because we are define by what we say we are... by limitations, hurts, pain. and without it we don't see who we can become. when we do, we let go... and define again, by something... until we feel limited once more....

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Cause we're stubborn(: lol it's our nature. But like most things that come naturally, it's not a good thing.

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Gravity. Everything has it, without it life could not exist in any form, there'd be nothing. Our thoughts gravitate us in one direction or another drawing what we think we desire towards us. Like eggos...our thoughts place value on the object, gravity if you will, so we find it a necessary part of our being until examining the object in question and realizing it isn't. That's apart of growing.

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everyone has a past, usually not a very wonderful one causing most everyone to hold on to anything that has value to them. having something makes someone feel special and happy and letting it go makes them feel alone and empty and horrible all over again. therefore no one wants to feel or be like that. some people also believe that no one will understand the complexity of their problem or that no one will care, so therefore people usually decided to hold it on the inside. on the other hand some people just dont want to feel emotions, they find them as a waste of time and they generally dont want to feel it, they would perfer to keep it inside and leave it untouched. humans have many ways of feeling and doing certain things it all debates back on the past and personality and what exactly has made them who they are. its just hard to face the fact that something is over or just done with for the moment it is just a huge slap in the face, however is it better to get the huge slap in the face and know the reality of the truth and to try to get a head start on the moving on process; or for some is it better to hold it in put a numbness on it and just gradually work your way there. the wonders are astounding however there is no right or wrong anwser everyone is different and some people just need to realize how others are.

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I feel there are two ways of thinking LIFE is a sacrifice to endure LIFE is an opportunity to embrace people who live in sacrifice have a very hard time letting go because it was a sacrifice to get people who live life as an opportunity let go much quicker because they look forward to what is to come...

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When ideas define a phase of your life that you're in and new ideas come along that enhance and replace the old ones, you kind of have to reconsider your identity, who you are to yourself and who you are to others. People react to this in different ways, where some are hostile to new concepts, others know the new stuff is right but are apprehensive because accepting it might change their outward image, and some are more open to change and aren't attached to their image that much, and they embrace new ideas. I think in America and other places it's hard to make a declaration or stand for something and then change your point of view because the ego desires to appear consistent. What we're holding onto is the ego, and when we let that go we can let other things go.

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It's very interesting how different people interpreted the question... Ok - so when I read it, I immediatly thought about 'stuff and things', as in why do people hoarde their stuff instead of giving it all away - so to answer the question in that context, I'd say that the desire to hold onto and hoarde resources produced a reproductively selective advantage that over hundreds of millenia have resulted in a 'this is mine, get ur own sh*t' mentality (at least sub-consciously) in most people alive today.

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People find it very hard to let go of ideas like Santa Claus even when the evidence is shouting LET GO! - attachment is inevitable but learning to let go is life affirming and joyful...

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I wonder if there isn't a persistent belief (helped along by advertising) that we are defined by the things we own? The fashionable, the conveniences, the sporty, the 'better-than-the-Joneses'? As I look around (an in the mirror as well), I think we believe that we are not complete, without our "things". Even when I travelled homeless for a while and my "things" amounted only to what would fit in my vehicle, I was still very attached to them and finding one little thing missing would prompt an exhaustive search. Perhaps we still identify strongly with our forebearers? Without tooth or fur or fang to protect ourselves, our tools became our advantage? Losing them perhaps means losing our advantage? But today we've just gone overboard with the process, counting luxuries as necessities (as in, how did we manage to survive for so many eons with cell phones and running water!)

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Are those guys in the picture fighting over a waffle? Don't they know that pancakes are better? besides they are right here AND they are free.

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Not me. Letting go of people is like cutting back the dead wood. As I get older my friendships get better and deeper, but there are less of them. All good. I love to purge in many areas of my life. The things I find hard to let go of are some of the deeply ingrained (mis)beliefs of my childhood..... I'm not smart enough, not likeable, not attractive, not worthy, blah, blah, blah. I've got better at understanding them and moving them out of my tiny little brain more quickly, but they still kick in when the chips are down. After many years of looking inward, I still haven't quite figured out what my motivation is for keeping them around. But I ain't dead yet.

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Link to our past. Hindsight is always romanticized.

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sigh... i have a hard time letting go of people.

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I have about a dozen pair of Levi's of different sizes that I refuse to part with. Some I have had since the 80's. All are in great condition. I won''t let go of them cause I figure I can always loose weight. Also I refuse to pay 30 or 40 bucks for new ones. Plus, mine are already broke in. :-)

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Why is it so much easier for us as humans to hold on to stuff instead of letting it go??

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Letting go means moving on. Moving on means growing up. Growing up means change. And change scares anyone.

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because we are define by what we say we are... by limitations, hurts, pain. and without it we don't see who we can become. when we do, we let go... and define again, by something... until we feel limited once more....

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Cause we're stubborn(: lol it's our nature. But like most things that come naturally, it's not a good thing.

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People find it very hard to let go of ideas like Santa Claus even when the evidence is shouting LET GO! - attachment is inevitable but learning to let go is life affirming and joyful...

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Are those guys in the picture fighting over a waffle? Don't they know that pancakes are better? besides they are right here AND they are free.

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Link to our past. Hindsight is always romanticized.

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sigh... i have a hard time letting go of people.

Bonster

I have about a dozen pair of Levi's of different sizes that I refuse to part with. Some I have had since the 80's. All are in great condition. I won''t let go of them cause I figure I can always loose weight. Also I refuse to pay 30 or 40 bucks for new ones. Plus, mine are already broke in. :-)

Why is it so much easier for us as humans to hold on to stuff instead of letting it go??

Letting go means moving on. Moving on means growing up. Growing up means change. And change scares anyone.

because we are define by what we say we are... by limitations, hurts, pain. and without it we don't see who we can become. when we do, we let go... and define again, by something... until we feel limited once more....

Cause we're stubborn(: lol it's our nature. But like most things that come naturally, it's not a good thing.

People find it very hard to let go of ideas like Santa Claus even when the evidence is shouting LET GO! - attachment is inevitable but learning to let go is life affirming and joyful...

Are those guys in the picture fighting over a waffle? Don't they know that pancakes are better? besides they are right here AND they are free.

Link to our past. Hindsight is always romanticized.

sigh... i have a hard time letting go of people.

I have about a dozen pair of Levi's of different sizes that I refuse to part with. Some I have had since the 80's. All are in great condition. I won''t let go of them cause I figure I can always loose weight. Also I refuse to pay 30 or 40 bucks for new ones. Plus, mine are already broke in. :-)

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