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Does sex make you uncomfortable?

Excluding the percentage who have had real, serious trauma, what makes some people afraid of their own bodies as well as others? Upbringing? Religion? Body image?

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I've had a few limps in my step before.... but I think it was mostly guilt.. I have to like the girl first. strange for a guy I guess.. idk

I won't answer this for myself. I just wanted to share this funny Craigslist posting I was shown today. It's a woman giving guys permission to be sexual again. It's graphic.: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sea/561877622.html" target="_blank">http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sea/561877622.html

From my perspective religion was a BIG issues when I wan growing up, but then after I got to know my religion and other religions and found out that God was NOT "a horrific Judge" and gave Sex, to do with who ever we want and when ever we want (another think that separates us from animals) I was liberated. Body image can also be pulling the breaks and upbringing to mainly those 3 things are huge factors why people feel uncomfortable.

I'm not afraid of the human body, or the idea of the human body engaging in sex. I can withstand quite a bit of sexual activity if it's acting... Seriously, 'True Blood' is one of my favorite shows and watching Bill and Rowena bang each other with a dead bloody body practically between the two of them didn't bother me at all. But reality TV and reality in general sexual acts tend to bother me, and not because there's anything wrong with the act itself, because there's not. I just feel like it's something incredibly personal, whether they are intentionally sharing or not. I don't want to watch something that I feel is meant to be theirs and theirs only (meaning the people involved).

Feeling a disconnect (e.g. with partners, within the body, with self-held expectations/assumptions) is the #1 culprit, imo/ex. That goes for every kind of sexual discomfort: physical, emotional, social, mental, spiritual, whatever. And we're expected to believe so much about sex with all its trappings and pretty packaging (that's often contradictory and paradoxical)... no wonder so many people are flipping miserable and have 'complexes.'

sex does not make me feel uncomfortable because I've had the same partner for three years. sex is a very special important thing that two people can share because it's not just sharing your body, it's sharing your heart and soul too. I believe it's very important to be with someone you love and trust and build a foundation for a relationship that should include sex but not be all about it. I used to be terrified that my breasts were too small and I had too many scars, but the person I love looked past at that and saw me for what's on the inside. (haha.. that can also be a dirty pun.) I think that some people are afraid because it's the closest you can get to a person and that moment you are connected to another person and there's a truth in that and a fear that when it's over that compassion and lust they showed you won't be there afterwards. but ideally, at least for me, it's with someone I care deeply about and I know they'll still love me in the morning.

Some times, I feel that in the beginning of a relationship even if you are ready to have sex with the other person, your brain can scream no because you do not have that familiarity with them or you are not a thousand precent comfortable with them. I was always taught that sex was bad when I was growing up and to this day I get a guilty feeling when I start sleeping with someone new. I can not turn my brain off from that feeling of guilt to enjoy the sex except during very rare occasions.

Mentally speaking no. Physically speaking, occationally. I had some past injuries (unrelated to sex) that have given me the unforchunate ability to feel when it's going to rain (high humidity). So when my bones ache the thought of someone jumping them isn't as appealing.

My own 2 cents here: I think that many, many women out there do not like or enjoy sex because they simply don't understand how their own minds and bodies work. It makes me feel bad for them.

@Ginny Las Vegas

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Mentally speaking no. Physically speaking, occationally. I had some past injuries (unrelated to sex) that have given me the unforchunate ability to feel when it's going to rain (high humidity). So when my bones ache the thought of someone jumping them isn't as appealing.

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My own 2 cents here: I think that many, many women out there do not like or enjoy sex because they simply don't understand how their own minds and bodies work. It makes me feel bad for them.

Does sex make you uncomfortable?

I've had a few limps in my step before.... but I think it was mostly guilt.. I have to like the girl first. strange for a guy I guess.. idk

Mentally speaking no. Physically speaking, occationally. I had some past injuries (unrelated to sex) that have given me the unforchunate ability to feel when it's going to rain (high humidity). So when my bones ache the thought of someone jumping them isn't as appealing.

My own 2 cents here: I think that many, many women out there do not like or enjoy sex because they simply don't understand how their own minds and bodies work. It makes me feel bad for them.

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