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Some girls in other countries 13 years old is good. But for most American girls it should be when they are mature and have the wisdom. For too many women that is around 40. That when they might not care about looks so much and maybe pick a good man for the father. It takes TWO people make a baby. Men are an important part in raising them and some men will never be ready.
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when the couple thinks that they are ready, and others think that they are ready too
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Hell, I really wanted to just let this question go by without comment, but I'm back here again anyway. You are old enough to appropriately have a baby when you are ready to give 110%, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year, for the next 18 years. When you realize that a child needs love, nutrition, discipline, education, healthy role models, guidance, health care, fun, exercise, good friends, clothes, haircuts, shoes, oh my God the list is endless. And that is assuming that you have a healthy child, not one with special needs. You have to know that YOU are there for the child, the child is not there for you like some cute human pet. Ideally, you are already married to the baby's father and have a mature, respectful, loving relationship so that the child has full access to both biological parents and their families and there is a large support network. Ideally, you already have some experience with babies and children before you start. The youngest excellent mothers I know had their babies at age 16-17.
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these days, according to pediatricians, the average age of puberty for girls is about 10.5 for girls and about 11 to 12 for boys. So it is possible to have a baby very early on. But if the average age for a boy's voice to change is 14.5, it is clear that there is a lot of growth after reaching the point where a person can physically reproduce. So we know when it's possible, but apparently not so much agreement on when it is appropriate or wise. I think, as a rule of thumb, we should agree on "later."
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When you are financially and emotionally mature and secure. This can mean 21 for some people, 40 for others, or never.
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I don't know what's "appropriate" but I know that I wasn't ready to be a great mom until I was almost 30. I think it's best to wait until you've got some life experience under your belt, a savings account, and a stable home environment.
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One of my really close friends was 15 when she got pregnant. All through out middle school and the beginning of freshmen yer she was this stupid, loud, druggie that I couldn't stand, but when she got pregnant it all changed. She became a new person, a better, cleaner version of herself. Over the last year and a half she has become so much more mature, I absolutely love her. The bond she has with her son is incredible. She truly does care for him, and takes wonderful care of him. She balances both school and a bay, which is mind blowing to me. Personally I feel that it depends on the person. In my friend's case it was a good mistake, for myself it would not work. When you are stable, and your life is steady, that is the time to have a baby.
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I think that girls need to wait until they are out of highschool. there are so many kids my age in the surrounding cities/towns where I live that are between the ages of 16-18 still in highschool having kids. I think you need to wait until you are financially set, in a stable relationship and have a steady system of support backing you. If you're not ready,no matter how much you love the kid, I think that you'll end up to have some feelings of resentment towards that child bc you missed out on so much.
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this is the twentyfirst century if you wait till your financilly ready to have a child most of the people in this world would still be waiting! yes its eaiser for two people to raise a child but one more then capable person can manage just fine...when you done playing the games you played as a child your ready to have one. btw..calling any child a b*****d is just mean...
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As for an approprate age for having a child - well, there are too many variables to say "this age and not before. Ever" I suggest waiting until you've had time to grow into yourself. And you can support yourself AND a child. Yes, you might have a wonderful partner who makes thousands per month, but you never know what's going to happen. I have several friends who have just had their first or are about to have their first, and they all experience to some degree the "I wish I'd waited" syndrome. (These girls are 16-22) They're all in committed relationships and have a great support network. But the fact remains, you're stuck with raising this child until it grows up and moves out, in about 18-20 years. Put some serious thought into some of the different situations you might find yourself in, and then talk to your parents, friends, other family, and partner (if you have one). and your doctor, too. I hope you make the choice that works best for you :)
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When you are married. I say that because raising a child is hard work. Yes one person can do it, but it's a heck of a lot easier with two parents.
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I was 30 when I had mine. I'm so glad I waited. I was a selfish Beeatch for a LONG time. Then again, it would have been better if I could pull all nighters without feeling like sheeze the next day! As for others, I can't answer that. Too bad nature says 14 is young enough...sometimes twelve. Yikes. Since we are living way longer, I wish evolution would catch up and tweak our biological clocks a bit. Maybe start ovulating around 18. THERE"S an idea.
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I've always though that the appropriate age is 25 and married. But honestly one must make sure that you are financially stable and who knows what age that'll be in this economy.
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No real age is inappropriate. What's inappropriate is having a b*****d child. Get married before you think of anything like that.
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Well. IMO a child isn't intended to raise a child so the appropriate youngest age would be the age that a person legally becomes an adult in the society they live in. From a practicle stand point i'd also say idealy it would be the age where the person can not only take care of themself but also a child... I know things don't always work out that way... but that's just my opinion.
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I think the appropriate age to have a baby is when you have arranged a long term support system for the kid when it's born, mainly financial supporter. If you have more than "he promised to support me" at young teen years i think your alright.
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