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I think you should try to build up your self-esteem. Start by not caring what others think--you and your loved ones know the true you, so why does it matter? Then just be yourself, be outgoing. I used to be so shy, and I'm a lot less now, and I love it. People then know your interior as well as your exterior. Good luck! I'm sure your beautiful, outside and in. :)
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Start by caring more about yourself and less about what others think. we seem to bloggle our heads with all these thoughts. you should try Meditation, I'm sure you would find yourself and your happiness after a few sessions. Check for classes at the community college in your area.
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Listen, you don't have to go through rough periods in your life alone. Find someone who will listen to your most inner thoughts, whether that be a trusting friend - one who you can confide in, a loved one, or a shrink. You have to be able to open up, positive or negative thoughts, and discuss them. Don't let it fester and drag you down. You need a release and by talking to someone about your thoughts will definitely help. If you are alone and no one is available to talk then keep your mind occupied with positive thoughts. Try to find the light and stay away from the darkness. Do things that you know will put a smile on your face. Can I suggest a couple of things? How about going to the gym. Burn off the negative energy while helping your body get stronger. Go out and dance... Sweat the negative vibes away. Try to stay active. Remain busy and continue to better yourself in every which way possible. Perhaps you may want to explore your spirituality... I'm not sure who or what you believe in, but try to use spiritual guidance as another outlet. Who knows this could be a way of higher beings reaching out to you. My thoughts and prayers will be w/ you and I am confident you will be able to get through this! It's just one of the many hurdles in life's long journey! Jump it and look forward!
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First of all...You're NOT alone...sounds pretty simple but when you realize...like there are 14 responses here...that you really are not alone. I know exactly how it feels to be laughing on the outside and crying on the inside. It's taken me waaaay too many years to find out that I was not only my own worst enemy but my bestest friend. I found a lot of the time that the stories I was telling myself were sad [why would l do that to me], angry [why would I do that to myself], belittling, untrue/false, or just plain a*s wrong. I really had to learn to love myself...I'm still working on it...not there totally yet...but know...YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
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Some lines that may come in handy: I know better than you do how I feel. I will decide for myself what I worry about. Dont argue with me about how I feel or what I think/believe. I may not have all the answers, but I know me better than you do. I can use a friend who allows me to define myself, is that you? I have neglected myself for a while and now I am trying to be more real.
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awhh baby. listen, honestly its not what happens to you, its what you make of it. Everyone is faced with obstacles in their lives, even when you dont beleive it. But look at it like this. the tests we are given in life make us stronger and emotionally capable of handling even bigger things in life. I know your stong. I see it within you when you talk. As dark as things may seem there is always a light there, look for it. Youll feel better. Just a thought hun, maybe theres something that makes you happy that your just yearning to do and not to be doing it is making you unhappy. Because I felt liek sh*t all year like your describing, always giggling and laughing but I was always upset, but over the summer i found a lot of things that brought happiness to initally my soul and now, I feel better still facing obstacles( youuu knowww) but I feel better overall. Ill help you out. :)<3
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*huge hugs* I think more people understand how you feel than you realise. We've all been there (or are still there), to one degree or another. The plot and characters change, but the essence of the story is still the same. Your plea is a beautiful, honest, heartfelt plea of the soul. So thank you for having the guts to be vulnerable and frank. That's the first step, imo, in getting the exterior to match the interior. I absolutely love that picture (and the message within it), btw... Is it yours? Where did it come from? It brought tears to my eyes, actually. Thank you.
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Find someone you trust with everything and tell them. Unless you tell someone NO ONE will ever know how you really feel. Trust me I've been and nothing felt better then to open up. Do you have a loved one you can talk to?
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Talk more about it. People are willing to listen, and sometimes this kind of forum is a great place to get your feet wet. Professional counselors generally don't judge and have quite a few road maps that might lead to your happy place. And if you don't like them, get another one. Find somebody on this site, for example, that you feel have some grasp of situations and become their friends on Facebook or email them. I think there are a lot of people here who would like to help even more than they like to argue. :-). You sure have a lot to choose from.
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