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nickymendoo

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What stops you from living the best life you can?

We can all see clear visions of our ideal selves living just the way we'd like to. Why don't we just hurry up and be that way already? What stops you from living just the way you want to be living?

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The TV. It is a distraction, but it is also constant reminder that no matter how happy I am, there is always something I dont have, somewhere I am not. Someone I could be.

Chronic illness. Constantly wondering if the illness was part of the plan, but 4 years off the path of destiny? it must be there for a reason. Other than that I have a tendency to need to please others... that can hold you back sometimes

It's the fear of disappointing others. Most people are too concerned about what others think or letting other people down. I know I would have made some different choices in my life if I wasn't afraid of hurting someones feelings or being judged.

Only the limitations I put on myself. Life is a wonderful, awesome and meant to be lived to the fullest.

My parents are slowing me down. Of Course, I can move out, but they're in some financial, marital, and social pain right now. It's not my duty to bring them through this, but ontological debt is a karmatic b*tch.

physics and law enforcement.

Responsibilities.

Oneself and own lack of courage. Especially sad towards the end of one's life to think you may have wasted all this time, and have to answer to the Creator for ones negligence in making full use of the gift

In my experience, it is generally ME. MY worrying about what others will say, think and feel. ME not acting on my desires and intuitions. ME being scared of the success and the failure. And then when I get me out of the way - WOW!

FEAR and low self respect for my talent as an artist. My heart cries to be creative yet at the same time I coward humbly, discounting my talents. Just Do It! Why does thou abase yourself? Fear is a scream withheld from ones soul. I best scream, then get to work.

The fear of failing

That I will make everyone around me feel left behind, I don't want to leave them behind in my success because then I'll feel lonely and alienated.Some people are just stuck in life and I'm trying to be patient and wait till my husband unsticks himself so we can move on together, I don't want to outshine him because then it will just emphasize his failures. I suppose my love and empathy are stopping me. Plus I'm also a little lazy and fearful.

Ignorance and ego.

One of the biggest obstacles I've seen is the people we choose as a husband or wife. Often, this choice is made too soon and for the wrong reasons, and boy does it ever stop you from "growing" in your life the way you should be. You should be a little more selfish and take the time you need to focus on yourself first. That means figuring out who you want to be in your life, what you want to do for a living, and what kind of person you want to join your life someday. Do these things before you rush into marriage & children.

my lack of self-confidence!!!

Not having a clear vision about what I wish I could be and at the same time wishing I could be so many different things at once. Many people also always want they don't have/can't have. When I was younger all I wanted to settle down and have a family and I thought that would be my best life; now that I am settled and have a family of own, I often wish I could be independent and travel and do all the things you can't do when you are settled down. I talked with my husband the other day about how I wish we could just live our lives over and over again with a conscious memory of our past lives so that we could do things differently and see where life takes us. Maybe in my next life I would be an athlete instead of a musician, and THAT would be my best life instead of the one I have now. Maybe I AM living the best life I can....but I don't think anyone will ever know because possibilities are infinite as to what you choose to do with yourself every single day.

fear of success? procrastination? not having a clear thought on what would be my best life? wasting time not wondering about it.