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Do you believe in 'The One?'

A wise pastor I know said he didn't like the idea of each person having one other 'soulmate', a person predestined to be with you forever, because that eliminates the romance of choosing someone. He thought it wouldn't be as special to love someone who you are, in a way, forced to love. What do you think? Do you believe in 'The One?' (image from xkcd.com)

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I'm not sure if you mean "the one" as in a soul-mate or just like, a significant other...But firstly, I believe that we have several soul-mates in our lifetime. Not necessarily romantic ones, but just people who have impacted our lives in some way, like people we were kinda meant to meet or know. Secondly, the idea of "the one" kinda bugs me, cause I'd hate to put someone on that kind of pedestal. Like, "you're the perfect person I've been waiting for my entire, cognizant life." And I hate putting expectations on people. I agree with the wise pastor in your story, that it kind of eliminates that whole "spontaneous/risky/interesting" aspect of finding love. I think that there is someone we're meant to be with, but that doesn't mean that if we don't end up with this person that we've totally mangled our destiny or something. I think "the one" is who we choose him/her to be. We all have different ideas or expectations about what "the one" would be like if he/she were out there, but once you're with someone and it feels right, then I guess you've found something special and they don't have to necessarily fit the image you had in mind..

if there is "the one" it's a bummer for every body, because we'll never get paired up right. If just one person get's it wrong, then they stole someone's "one" and their "one" get's matched up with the wrong "one" and we have one big jacked up statistical nightmare and given a little bit of time, we're all mismatched. dang. better to stick with the idea that you pick one, commit to selfless love and enjoy the ride. this world is too messed up for such unaided ideals.

Clearly, none of you have met the right person yet. If you have many relationships throughout your life, then you obviously do not have a "one." But for some people, like me, there are not many. Life is brief, and we will never meet 99% of the people with whom we share this earth. If you find that you cannot spend what little time you have with one special person, then they clearly are not very special. I have a "one." I'm not hers. She doesn't want me at all, in fact, but I live for her and will love her with all my heart until I die. One moment of togetherness with her is more glorious than the all the other moments of my life combined. There was no one before, and there can be no one after. People throw the word love around too lightly. Relationships come and go. People fall in and out of "romance." But love is something beyond. Something rare. I believe most people NEVER have it. You can feel very close to someone, even feel closer than you ever have to anyone else, but if that feeling doesn't last then it wasn't love in the first place. My definition of love requires that it be exceeding and unique. Most people don't seem to understand this word the way I do. Is that because they know something about "love" I don't, or because I have felt something they don't understand?

I have had 3 soul mates so far in my life...so, no I do not believe in ONE.

it sounds so mystical , like platos half beings searching for a pre destined other half , that is cool , but is it true ? not sure

the term "the one" almost sounds too permanent. we have many partners and relationships but i think someone you choose (who also chooses you) that you want to keep a relationship with is more about the two of you being intertwined. but the decisions that make you who you are as an individual can effect the person you are 'destined' to be with. for instance, if my mother would have taken the one semester abroad she wouldn't have met my father. however, after they divorced she ended up with a guy she'd known throughout high school. she is the happiest i've ever seen her, but she constantly says she wouldn't 'do it over' and just skip her mistakes because they made her who she is.

I believe that "the one" is someone who was made especially for you. Someone who is perfect for you in everyway. And I also believe that everyone has one. But I don't believe at all that they are always found in the least.. There are many people any one person could and can be happy with. But that doesn't mean that they are the absolute best for them. And while "the one" for you may be predestined, that doesn't mean that you don't get a say in the matter. It's more like a challenge to me. A great and adventerous challenge to find your match. Isn't it worth it? And why wouldn't you want to be with your one if you could?

My definition of "the one" implies a person who I can easily connect with (verbally, physically, emotionally). Conversation comes naturally because we feel free to be open with each other. We almost feel safe to be open and honest with each other about our thoughts and matters of the heart. Chemistry. Physical chemistry. Emotions are very delicate. And if you feel something [for someone], then it is probably beneficial to go with it. Do not ignore your heart. "The one" might be an unexpected choice, and may show up at an inconvenient time in your life. However, if you think deeply about it, perhaps they showed up just in time. The world is a big place, and life is a big experience. There could be more than a singular "one", despite the title.

I believe in the one, as long he remains the one, than I beleive in the other! The process of loving someone because they are the one soul mate, can be a little claustrophobic if they don't feel the same way!

I believe there is someone who you are supposed to be with, and there will always be other people before (or maybe even after) them.

@calholli very well put

I believe there are many.... but only one at a time

I think it's great that your pastor believes in romance. I do too. However, there is more than one soulmate for a person in any given lifetime. Soulmates are not just people we will marry. They can be family members or friends, too. Soulmates do not always find each other, either. These people sometimes are the ones who "wait until the right one comes along". They know, at the soul level, that they are waiting for specific people, and perhaps one. If one of these people doesn't come into their life, they may never marry at all. They instinctively know. As far as it not being "as special to love someone who you are, in a way, forced to love", my response is that you can't be forced to love anybody. Again, this is romantic love we're talking about here, right? What could be more romantic than finding someone you agreed to meet in your next lifetime, to continue a love that transcends time and space? For the soul it's love at a much higher vibration at work.

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I have had 3 soul mates so far in my life...so, no I do not believe in ONE.

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it sounds so mystical , like platos half beings searching for a pre destined other half , that is cool , but is it true ? not sure

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I believe in the one, as long he remains the one, than I beleive in the other! The process of loving someone because they are the one soul mate, can be a little claustrophobic if they don't feel the same way!

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I believe there is someone who you are supposed to be with, and there will always be other people before (or maybe even after) them.

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@calholli very well put

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I believe there are many.... but only one at a time

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yap.. in Jesus name! well without Jesus i don't trust my decisions of 'the one'

Do you believe in 'The One?'

I have had 3 soul mates so far in my life...so, no I do not believe in ONE.

it sounds so mystical , like platos half beings searching for a pre destined other half , that is cool , but is it true ? not sure

I believe in the one, as long he remains the one, than I beleive in the other! The process of loving someone because they are the one soul mate, can be a little claustrophobic if they don't feel the same way!

I believe there is someone who you are supposed to be with, and there will always be other people before (or maybe even after) them.

@calholli very well put

I believe there are many.... but only one at a time

yap.. in Jesus name! well without Jesus i don't trust my decisions of 'the one'

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