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lesbianlynni

- 3 years ago

JEALOUSY! WHY IS IT SO EASY TO BE JEALOUS OF SOMEONE WHEN YOU DONT EVEN KNOW THEM??

Okay the story behind this question is my girlfriend is jealous of all my "girl" friends that I've had past realtionships with, and their Jealous of her too. One of the girls I've known for 13yrs and she's jealous but she's not like this other girl who is in love with me and can't handle me being with another woman even though she lives like 2hrs from me. This girl wants me to choose between her and my girlfriend, she's so Jealous of my girl to the point she makes her so mad to the point I get put in the dog house. The bad thing is they dont even know each other. So I guess I wanna know why its so easy to b jealous of someone??? even if you dont them??

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DAISYDO

DAISYDO

- 3 years ago

Be careful. I know someone who introduced two such ladies to each other and they became best friends.

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Mistral

Mistral

- 3 years ago

I think the key here was "past realtionships" you've moved on, they haven't. I'd lay down the law and tell em, "look you either get me as a friend or nothing at all, we had our time and it ended for a reason, i've moved on." It's easier to be jealous of someone you don't know because then you only see the shiney side of things... like the neighbor who envies the guy up the block with 6 cars and a mansion... not knowing the repo man is hiding around the corner and the bank keeps threatening to forclose. People envy the ideal not the actual.

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kdmask

kdmask

- 3 years ago

I used to get VERY jealous when I was younger...it started to fade around 22-23. (Start of The Age of reasoning not emotions, I've decided) I used to yell at my boyfriends all the time. They'd make me feel like if I turned around, they'd be gone. (do you do that at all? Just asking). It used to grip me in the throat...When I finally found the guy I married, there was no jealousy. Which, means I am secure with him. He makes me feel like the greatest thing on the planet.

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jedikelb

jedikelb

- 3 years ago

One of the ingredients of jealousy is insecurity. Feelings of jealousy have to do with yourself and your relationship with the person you're feeling jealous over, not the person you're feeling jealous of. Actually if you get the two jealous people together to meet each other and then leave them alone together to socialize, it might actually help. We fear what we don't understand.

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tsholo_m

tsholo_m

- 3 years ago

as @BlueCrayon said jealousy comes when you perceiving the other to be better than oneself. in a relationship i think i would be of another girl only if i thought there was something going on between them and my boyfriend and therefore couldn't trust the guy - which would mean i couldn't remain in that relationship any longer, but if i fully trusted the guy there wouldn't be a need to be jealous.

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BlueCrayon

BlueCrayon

- 3 years ago

Jealousy (and/or envy) comes from comparing oneself to another and perceiving the other to be better than oneself.

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Trixie

Trixie

- 3 years ago

I have to chalk it up to your ages...

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trishmullahey

trishmullahey

- 3 years ago

i do not hang around with a man if he is jealous like what you have described-it is dysfunctional , childish and boring .

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