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and i would only smash something in private. don't want to look like a TOTAL loon. negativity needs to be released or it solidifies in your body. hence tight muscles, headaches etc... but i do have enough respect for myself and people in general to not go ballsout apeshit.
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if alone: screaming if there are witnesses: fists balled up, tension throughout body. just walk away come back in a few then exercise, lots of running. maybe i'll smash something, maybe. but i'd have to be raging (and it would be something of mine)
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I know a wonderful soul who never gets angry and is always so well-liked. I like him too- very much. But he now has high blood pressure and as a result, a lengthened aorta coming out of his heart due to the pressure - and most likely he will die of it sometime in the next 10 years. So honestly- I dont believe in all of this detached business. If I can be detached, then I probably wasnt really "attacked" however you want to define this, and defining this is probably important. It has something to do with being able to say "no" in whatever form. People who are very good at defending their own personal boundaries probably have less need for anger than others. If it is that kind of detached that is meant here, then I buy it. So hopefully I release my anger (verbally) towards the person who derserves it, because surrogates dont seem to do the job either. The best thing of all is if one can even nip it in the bud, before it becomes a bigger issue.
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Depends on the type and source of the anger. My husband and I have found ourselves literally "hopping mad" sometimes at each other - it is exceedingly funny to watch your mate hopping up and down involuntarily. Very easy to get over that and forget it. For a serious slow burn over a big injustice, I recite a prayer ("Is there any Remover of difficulties save God? Say: Praised be God! He is God! All are His servants and all abide by His bidding.") over and over and meditate on the situation until I learn whatever lessons I need to learn and come up with a reasonable plan of action to deal with it if I need to. This way I work on transforming the anger into something useful.
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singing and playing guitar, music is a beautiful getaway from this angry world :)
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I smoke a cigarette and drink a beer, occationally if it's bugging me enough i'll rant about it for awhile to my husband or on my blog. The concept of a "good cry" isn't one i'm kin to, when I cry my throat closes up and I have trouble breathing, so i'll stick with my beer.
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