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Once you fall in love is it ever really possible to fall out?

There's a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. When you know you've been in love is it ever possible to get over these feelings after you've lost them? How can you come to peace with not having them in your life anymore? Is it possible to fall in love again? Is it possible to be with another without feeling like you're settling for something lesser?

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Are those two girls?

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I wish I fell in love truely but to this question I have no answer.

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well i wouldnt know...

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Depends on if you crash into stuff or keep on falling forever.

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I don't know that love is really something to "get over". If it was that easy, what would Kelly Clarkson sing about? Really, though, I think it just slowly dies with time, although it can be re-awakened by many different things (memories, a smell, That Tex Mex place you always ate at together...). In my experience, my feelings for people I have loved in the past will always be there, but pretty much secluded to that time and to my memories. Kind of like "The Neverending Story" if you've read it (not in the movie, I don't think). As far as coming to peace with not having them in your life... I was in a relationship for three years with the person I thought I would spend my life with and when the relationship ended I was devastated, never thinking I would ever find anyone else. It took time to find my peace with it, but I eventually found it to be a blessing in disguise. I did fall in love again, and it's been better than anything I ever felt in the past. Settling for less... You only settle when you settle. There will be things about the new person in your life that you like better than the person before and vice versa. I guess to me it's just about finding the right person. When a relationship ends, no matter how much you love or loved that person, they were not the right one for you. When you do meet the right one, you will love them more than you thought possible, no matter if they snore or leave the toilet seat up or whatever.

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It is possible to cope with the feelings you have for the person once you're no longer with them. If it is truly love, I don't believe you ever "get over" it; however, the intensity usually diminishes over time. And if or when you cross paths with that person again, the feelings can resurface and intensify whether it is as a result of a brief encounter or over the course of a longer term reconnection. It is entirely possible, and probable, that you will fall in love again, with someone else, and without feeling like you settled for something lesser. When it happens again, and it is good, the love can be even better beyond what you thought possible or just as strong, although different, than what you experienced before.

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i believe that one CAN and that people DO 'fall out of love'. i see being 'in love' as a state of infatuation and lust and a whole host of other emotions and once all those initial things fall by the way side people feel like they are 'out of love' with one another...to remain IN love takes work...just like all beautiful things do

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When you fall in love with love itself, then you will be all set

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I think if you're IN love with someone, you can't ever truly get over them. Even if they've cheated on you, you can be angry, upset, hurt, betrayed...and yet, you still love them. You don't want to love them, but you can't help it. You eventually move on to other people, and you continue your life. But in the back of your mind, things that remind you of that one, special person bring back amazing memories, and you feel a tug that reminds you, you're not entirely over them. And there's nothing wrong with that. But unless there's a betrayl of trust (in which the "I love you" part has died), if you're IN love with someone, you shouldn't lose them because being in love like that is so intense, and so connected that you can't just let it end easily. It doesn't. You try and try if something goes wrong until it's fixed, and you stick it out, no matter how many potholes are in the road. Unless your partner has done something to kill the trust, there is no possible way someone you're in love with (and they feel the same way) could ever leave. Speaking from personal experience, I don't see any way. I loved someone last summer, and it was great. But when things got hard and I realised he wasn't right for me, we broke up. Yes, I loved him, but I never was openly intimate with him. I didn't feel it go all that deep. And this year, I found someone I'm so connected to, it's like every fibre of my being is connected to him. I'm in love with him. I could spend the rest of my life with him, and I'm going to. I don't care what happens, I could never leave him: it'd be giving up the single best thing that's ever come into my life. I'm not quite sure why you're asking this question, maybe it's because personally you're struggling with this. If you are, I wish you the best of luck in persuing your life. It is possible to fall in love again; there are many people in this world, people are bound to have similar traits and personalities to make you fall in love with them. But ask yourself...did you really lose that person because of the right reasons? If not, maybe reconsider and try again. Good luck in life and I wish you all the best.

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I have personally fallen out of love, only to find a stronger love, so yes. Anything is possible, and doubly so regarding love. I never thought I'd trust another woman again and POW! Off I go. Ah, the mystery of love.

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Every one is an different, some play musical chairs with the hearts of others, and some carry a torch for years, and there are many more ways people take on the Hearbreak monster. You just have to do what you think is right for you situation. If your a bleeding heart you may never truley come to terms to what happened, or one day it might just vanish. All the complications make it that much mor enjoyable when good things do happen. the oppsite of love is not hate but indifference, it takes passion to hate.

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