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Nope. Your actions will speak louder than your words - In my experience - you can tell someone your opinion of what they are doing - or you can choose to act in a different way yourself to set the example. It is hard to hang around someone who is doing things that you yourself are not wanting to do.
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First, sin is more of a condition or state of being than it is particular acts we do or don't do. It has more to do with being selfish, with treating other people (or the earth) as a means to an end instead of an end in themselves- and which one of us can say we've never done that- yeah, right NO ONE.. Even those who don't lie or lie about lying can't claim to be without sin. That's why there was no one to throw the first stone at the woman who committed adultery when Jesus called them on their hypocritical desire to condemn her. So, even if you did choose to still hang around this person whose behavior is a problem, that wouldn't mean you escape sin- that's why we all need grace cause we are so NOT up to the ubiquitousness of sin on our own. Now, since the whole sin thing is kind of out of the equation- I don't believe God wants us to allow ourselves to be abused (regular lying is an abuse of your friendship). You've forgiven that person, and that's good. You might be honest with them and say that you're not comfortable being with them because the friendship is not authentic. That would give them the opportunity to adjust their behavior. If they do, you might re-evaluate- who knows-you might be a good influence on them. If they don't, cutting off the relationship seems reasonable and healthy.
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Don't be around them. If the person wants to change then it's ok but you shouldn't hang out with a bad influence.
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"Bad company corrupts good character" It sounds like your conscience is telling you to steer clear. The sin would be to ignore your conscience.
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i agree...definitely not a sin...as much as you might want to be there for this person, it's not healthy if you are just giving to this relationship and only receiving negativity...
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Perhaps instead of asking yourself if it's a bad thing to walk away from someone who has treated you so badly, you should ask yourself why you haven't already left. By asking this question, are you trying to justify staying, or going? Do you think that you will feel guilty for leaving this person, and equate the feeling of guilt with sin? Because I don't see how sin has anything to do with it really.
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It`s not a sin. And we have to be able to protect ourselves. There is such a thing as healthy boundaries. And we can have compassion from a distance. That happens when we give up needing to try to control everything because we have realized that we actually cant.
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I've learned that you should never swindle anyone, nor allow yourself to be swindled. Concerning sin, one day I was fueling up the car when I caught the familiar smell of Marijuana in the air. The car on the other side of the pumps had a couple people tokin' on a doob. So I told my three kids to get out and stand next to our car and smell the air, they were ages 9, 11, & 12 at the time. I asked "what do you smell"? they responded with somethings burning, smells like the lawn. So I told them that if they were with a group of people or at a party and that they smelled that, they should go the other way. So you see, even though those guys were breaking the law, not to mention interfering with the development of their nervous system, they still provided a teachable moment for my children.
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