reply
- Feature
- Like
To love, without question. When you lose your capacity to love first, regardless of whether you are loved also, you have lost something important and special. I'm going through a difficult time lately (for a variety of reasons), where I am just not feeling able to love anyone, not even myself. Ironically enough, this is happening at a time when I am feeling the most supported and loved in years. It makes me feel like a fraud, like I am not myself anymore. My husband and I have talked about this, and we agree that I'm probably clinically depressed and need to see someone to truly talk it all out (we try, but there are some things I really can't discuss with him). I've never wanted to be one of those people who needs to be in therapy, but at this point I'd just give and do anything to start feeling like I love (my life, my family, and so forth) again.
reply
- Feature
- Like
You cannot love others without first loving yourself. So to love is to be loved they are one in the same.
reply
- Feature
- Like
Only looking without for what is always within is an endless search. You can only accept love when you can give it. @chantarella ...I liked this.
reply
- Feature
- Like
They are both equally important. They go hand in hand, and you can not have one without the other. Why would you want to choose, when you can have both?
reply
- Feature
- Like
thats hard. essentially while i think it is important to love, i think it is more necessary to be loved. the emptiness that people feel in life sometimes can be filled by someone who loves them.
reply
- Feature
- Like
I'm going to go with it's most important to love yourself. Then you are capable of loving others and of accepting love. I thought I experienced something I called love three times. Then I went through a period of sadness and heartbreak. Through that experience I realized that I had been looking to others to make me feel worthy of love. Not long after I learned to love myself unconditionally, I met the man I truly fell in love with and married him.
reply
- Feature
- Like
They are both equally important! I see it as a cycle; being loved and then loving others or vice versa!
reply
- Feature
- Like
I have never been in love... However, By some arbotary revelation, there have been a number of people who have supposedly had that jerking, life-alterering love for me... Undoubtedly,I have been very lucky, but when I look at al my past relationships, it hurts equally as much as it is flattering, because I just once wish I could love someone with that intense, life-changing passion that I have been so fortunate to have recieved on more than one occasion... From this experiance it often makes me very scared... I am scared that I dont have it in me to love purely... I WANT to feel that kind of passionate pain and pleasure that both Shakespere and my mother speak of...The kind where logic becomes irrelevant and nothing else really matters except the person who completes you... Ive been loved,,, I want to just do the same, more than anything else in the world now... Im just waiting and hoping it doesnt pass me by...
reply
- Feature
- Like
To be loved is the more important of the two . Most of us need to be loved , warts and all , before we can truly love ourselves and only then do we know really what love is. Then we know how to love others.We become capable of giving real love because we have received it and it is no longer a notion or the right thing to do.It's the real deal.
reply
- Feature
- Like
