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Absolutely. I forgive and forgave in order to move on and not hold grudges, but to take the situation as a learning experience, thus, I will never forget, nor use the offensive against the offender who may or may not deserve forgiveness. Forgiving is a powerful tool in the healing process. It allows us to put things in the past so that we may look to the future without impending heartache and hatred.
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its more the hoohah about it all that is forgotten once we genuinely forgive. We do not remember to hate" that moron" every day, so we do forget somethings. As to the details of a wrong done it is entirely up to us if we choose to focus on them or not but if they persist and we feel stress around them then that suggests that we have some more forgiving to do. It is sometimes more a process than a one off thing. Once we can remember a situation which brought out our unforgiveness and no longer feel stressed about it we know our work is done and the memory has lost it's power over us..so in a sense we have forgiven and forgotten.
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It seems to me that remembering what happened would be a big part of forgiving. I mean when you forgive someone for something that they did to you it's as much for you as it is for them. I think in order to truly forgive someone you have to look back on what happened without feeling anger at that person or hurt by that person.
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From personal experience I think you can forgive but not necessarily forget. Besides forgetting is not necessarily good. You need to learn from things not run from them and forget them.
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I wonder if only God can truly forgive and forget -- because by His power He says that He will? I'm talking a true "biggie" of course. I find that as I become more tolerate of others' growth process things that might have been a great injury to me once are no longer -- they are basically forgiven on the fly and organically slip from my recollection. But there are devastating trespasses in my past still bear scar tissue on my soul. Their commission against me, and my recovery process, are such a defining part of who I am that though I count them as forgiven and bear perhaps even love for the trespassers, I cannot see myself forgetting them. But maybe I'm just stubborn?
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Good question...i think its possible because i like to think i have forgiven people for things but i can still remember what happened. Although it definetely helps to forget about it once you forgive them, it can be extremely difficult but it makes you feel better about that person and yourself.
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yeah i do it all the time but i think the real question is is it possible to forgive AND forget?
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the 2 must go togeather .. or then you will really not let your mind forgive.. this is very hard to do...................; sigh its something i am working on..
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I feel like in order to FULLY forgive one must forget or atleast lose touch with the original situation. As long as you have an emotional connection with the situation you will never truly forgive.
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If one is living with the idea of, "I will forgive you, but I won't forget this" that is not true forgiveness. The motive of the heart is clear, I am outwardly doing the right thing, but inwardly I am harboring bitterness. Forgiveness is costly because the offended party chooses to absorb all the pain and hurt of the offense and never ask the other to pay the debt. Scientifically speaking, you brain can still remember offenses and I dare say, sometimes it is impossible to forget something. But forgetting is to be understood in different ways. Forgetting should always be in the realm of not necessarily not remembering, but rather choosing not to hold the offense over the persons head. So, in answer to your question, what is the intention of your heart? Thats where you need to start.
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