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Is your sexual preference locked in? Really?

Ever fall for a girl who turned out to be transgendered? Does the very idea of a fixed sexual preference fall away in the face of transgender? See the girl in the photograph; she's TG, and my preferences flew out the window when it happened to me...

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Brad Pitt is a godly hunk of man meat... does that make me gay? I don't think so.

Having been single for 90% of my adult life and I am 60, I have had sex with very many women. I picked up a girl about 25 years ago, had sex with her and something was just not right. It was only many years later that it finally hit me that the person was probably TG. I've been with girls of every complexion, dimension, and legal age and only that one gave me that weird vibe. I don't what else could explain it.

Personally I think it sells the human organism short to say we are totally defined by sex: either being born of the "wrong sex", or being so addicted to sex that we think it is what defines us rather than the other way around - being but one facet among many in who we are. The different sexes have different general traits but we as the possessors of intellect and choice get to decide what we will do with the hand we're dealt -- up to and including not liking the hand dealt us and demanding a "re-do". Sometimes life is about dealing with what is given us rather than trying to change everything around to our own good pleasure. I would suggest very little is learned on that road.

of course! ive been crushing on guys since the age of two, are you kidding??

Scary! please be careful because beauty is only skin deep, but honesty goes with courtship.

If the girls in the picture had a c**k I'd probably still do her.

There's a beautiful (but very sad) movie about this issue, called Soldier's Girl (staring Lee Pace.) The end is tragic and unfortunately as true as the emotions.

being attracted to a girl who is actually a TG boy doesn't change your sexual preference. It just shocks you a bit. Because 'physical beauty/attraction' is superficial, I don't think it has anything to do with genetics or preference. I'm a straight guy, but I can acknowledge the 'goodlookingness' of people like Johnny Depp, Zac Effron, or other men. other thought: the "girl" in the picture attracts the eye because there is a slim body showing some skin with an attractive smile. on second glance i can see how her face betrays the 'girl'.

Well, I do not think that accidentally becoming attracted to a male because you think he (she?) is female constitutes a blurring of your sexual preferences, because what you were attracted to was the feminine quality present - not the male. As such, I don't think that the complications arising from transgenders create sexual preferential ambiguities, unless a person attracted to a transgender recognizes there duality and is attracted to both aspects.

Well, if you fall for a pretty girl who turns out to be a transgender boy... then isn't your preference still 100% locked in??? I mean, it's not like you're falling for a boy. On another note, I think attractiveness is universal. We all know an attractive person regardless of our sexual preference. Yes, that means we are totally attracted to same sex.

I am 100% locked in. No doubt about it. There are some things that just cant be changed.

I don't know but here are my thoughts: I think personally I will have to be with a guy (marriage wise ect) but you never know who you will meet. A friend of mine was telling me about his friend who has multiple personalities and even though she is a female one of her personalities is male. And the male one gets upset it only has girl clothes. So if our minds can make up other gender personalities then yes i think it could be quite easy to change what we desire or will "fall for".

i dunno. cause i truly love the ole c**k but every now and again my thoughts wander to women what was the question?

My sexual preference may not have been locked in before I met my wife, but it is now.

She's beautiful! Give her a kiss!

It's tricky. For myself, I know I am one way and I have never been another. I don't think it's fair to tell other people what to feel.

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Is your sexual preference locked in? Really?

Brad Pitt is a godly hunk of man meat... does that make me gay? I don't think so.

of course! ive been crushing on guys since the age of two, are you kidding??

Scary! please be careful because beauty is only skin deep, but honesty goes with courtship.

If the girls in the picture had a c**k I'd probably still do her.

There's a beautiful (but very sad) movie about this issue, called Soldier's Girl (staring Lee Pace.) The end is tragic and unfortunately as true as the emotions.

I am 100% locked in. No doubt about it. There are some things that just cant be changed.

i dunno. cause i truly love the ole c**k but every now and again my thoughts wander to women what was the question?

My sexual preference may not have been locked in before I met my wife, but it is now.

She's beautiful! Give her a kiss!

It's tricky. For myself, I know I am one way and I have never been another. I don't think it's fair to tell other people what to feel.

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