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RachelLykeWhoa

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What's wrong with living life like a party?

i don't mean hard partying or things of that nature but by "normal" standards that I've grown up around always say the same thing basically: go to college, get your degree, get a high paying job, get married, have kids, retire. What's so wrong with living in apartment and not having huge excesses of money to buy things but enough to get the smalls things? do you agree with the "normal" standards? do you choose to follow them? or do you have a view like mine? slightly different? or extremely different? tell me what you think.

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I have lived the "not normal" life. Never finished college (or high school, for that matter) and have had the life of a stay at home mom for most of my adulthood. Been broke most of those years, but everything I or my family has needed, we've had. Now I'm divorced, working a barely-over-minimum wage job, and finishing my degree in my late 40's, and I have one thing to say to those of you who are on the "beginning" end of adulthood. That is, if you want to be running the deli at a grocery store or flipping burgers or working at a c-store in your 40's, then don't work on your education right now. Work hard while you are young, so when you get on in years, you can relax a bit. OTOH, if you don't mind doing the labor type jobs, and have no problem with working hard into your older years, then live relaxed right now. You'll work harder for less pay for longer years, but if you are relaxed and accepting of where your life is, and where it takes you...groovy : 0) I'm happy enough. Contented. ZERO money, no assets. And trusting God to take care of me all the days of my life.

I am an aspiring musician. I try hard to balance this, my normal day job and a long-distance relationship. I have a modest apartment in a nice neighboorhood and I am in my mid 20s. I don't love my day job, but the pay and the hours are decent and it's really the only thing in my life that could use improvement at this stage. I'm fine with letting it idle for now while I pursue my real goals. Often - however - I feel judged when people (my s/o's friends and family in particular) ask me what I "do." Even though they don't act differently I can tell by the way their body language changes that something isn't right. That's probably my least favorite thing; that change in someone when they basically laugh at you on the inside, thinking, "good luck with that one, buddy." It's like those who have done the "one size fits all" lifestyle can't accept someone who wants to do things differently...at least from what I've seen. So, to answer your question, RachelLikeWoah, I have a view like yours. Why not enjoy what you've got if it's what makes you happy? There's nothing wrong with that.

I like this question. It kind of threw me off guard at first though. I dont agree with the typical expectations that are thrown at us as we grow up. Yes, it would be nice to have HUGE success and have tons of money but really, money can really f*ck things up, exuse my language. We take alot of things for granted and dont appreciate the small things we have. And people dont give themselves enough credit. A job is a job. As long as you can support yourself and your family and you're healthy you should be proud of that job even if it is flipping burgers at McDonalds or scrubbing toilets. And the whole go to college, get your degree...What 18 year old KNOWS what they want? Really. I'm 18 and I am attending Beauty School because since I was 12 I thought it was what I wanted but now that I'm there I dont even know if its what I want to do. If its what makes me happy. I'm not saying DONT go to college but I think that after high school we should be given more time and kids should just relax and really explore different careers and oppurtunities to see if it's what they want.

I'd say there is nothing wrong with not abiding by a social standard. But living life like a party can entail a situation in which the effects of such living produce harm to others. Freedom means discretion, so go with your gut, but be aware that the world is populated with massive amounts of individuals, not just one.

I have a view like yours. "Go to college, get your degree, get a high paying job, get married, have kids, retire." How can one size possibly fit all? And just look around. Where would we be if one size fit all? Now there's a scary thought.

I don't have the same view as you, but you should and must do what is right for you as you live out your life, as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone else.

live life like a party, but at some point, the party ends. and thats when you gotta start being responsible. kinda like "party clean-up", your life can be a party, as long as you stop to "clean up" every once in a while.

I don't have the resources to follow the "normal" standard. But maybe my normal is different. How can anyone define "normal" anyway? I think the meaning of "normal" is completely relative. I spend half my time at an 80 year old house with no heat, and the other half at a junky 500-a-month apartment. That's my "normal." And you know? I've always been completely happy. I never needed the fancy parties, fifty dollar tshirts, designer jeans. I'm happier in a tank top and flip flops.

YES, yes, yes. I think there are many sheeps in the world that are just following the herd. BAAAAA.....I am 50 and have a 17 and 19 year old and am telling them life is full of infinite possiblities and that they can create their life any way they desire. So, again, yes, I have thought a lot about your questions and totally relate.

I think you are totally right the basic standard of life is boring.

I guess people are too afraid to fall behind.If you stay in that small apartment and enjoy the small things, does that mean you miss out on the big things?

The thing about a party, large or small, is that it is eventually over and someone has to foot the bill!

@RachelLykeWhoa Nashville, TN

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I have a view like yours. "Go to college, get your degree, get a high paying job, get married, have kids, retire." How can one size possibly fit all? And just look around. Where would we be if one size fit all? Now there's a scary thought.

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I don't have the same view as you, but you should and must do what is right for you as you live out your life, as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone else.

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live life like a party, but at some point, the party ends. and thats when you gotta start being responsible. kinda like "party clean-up", your life can be a party, as long as you stop to "clean up" every once in a while.

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I think you are totally right the basic standard of life is boring.

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I guess people are too afraid to fall behind.If you stay in that small apartment and enjoy the small things, does that mean you miss out on the big things?

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The thing about a party, large or small, is that it is eventually over and someone has to foot the bill!

What's wrong with living life like a party?

I have a view like yours. "Go to college, get your degree, get a high paying job, get married, have kids, retire." How can one size possibly fit all? And just look around. Where would we be if one size fit all? Now there's a scary thought.

I don't have the same view as you, but you should and must do what is right for you as you live out your life, as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone else.

live life like a party, but at some point, the party ends. and thats when you gotta start being responsible. kinda like "party clean-up", your life can be a party, as long as you stop to "clean up" every once in a while.

I think you are totally right the basic standard of life is boring.

I guess people are too afraid to fall behind.If you stay in that small apartment and enjoy the small things, does that mean you miss out on the big things?

The thing about a party, large or small, is that it is eventually over and someone has to foot the bill!

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